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AIBU or was this just rude?

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LollipopViolet Fri 07-Aug-09 17:38:11

I've just had a phonecall that's made my jaw drop. One of my friends, who I rarely see anyway, has just rung asking if he can borrow my camcorder to film a performance by another friend's dance school. Now, I'm a media student at uni, and the camcorder was a present from my mum after I passed my GCSE's, as I was going on to do media at college too.

My mum bought it, my granddad insures it. So, I ask my friend, can I be there/be the camera person, I know my camera, I know the settings etc. He said they've got people, and they have a camera, but didn't get any compatible DVD's to use in it. So I ask how he plans to get the footage off the internal hard disk. "Oh, the dance company is gonna edit." So, I'd be loaning the thing to him, plus a group I don't even know, and not seeing it for days. Er, no. I said no, told him my reasons, didn't feel comfortable, it cost £300, I would prefer to be there etc.

I know I am being a little bit protective, but my mum and granddad have both just said the only way that that camera leaves this house is with me, since they bought it and insure it. I agree with them.

So was I being unreasonable, or were they disorganised and rude? I tried to compromise, if I was going to be there, or do the editing so I'd get it back tomorrow, no problem, but to lose it for a few days to people I've never met??

I think they were rude, and they should've checked to make sure the DVD's worked earlier.

shinyshoes Fri 07-Aug-09 17:39:06

Bloody cheek if you ask me.


FabBakerGirlIsBack Fri 07-Aug-09 17:39:33


Don't give it another thought.

randomtask Fri 07-Aug-09 17:40:10

It sounds like they need to be organised and hoped you'd get them out of a hole.

But you were reasonable and they declined your offer so it's their problem.

KembleTwins Fri 07-Aug-09 17:40:36

YANBU. They should buy their own if they want one that badly.

Confuzzeled Fri 07-Aug-09 17:55:50

Why couldn't they get compatable DVD's?

Maybe he thought he'd try as he was stuck, you said No, end of story. I don't think it was rude, he was just asking, doesn't sound like he got nasty.

katiestar Fri 07-Aug-09 19:45:25


Thunderduck Fri 07-Aug-09 19:45:59


hippipotamiHasLost54lbs Fri 07-Aug-09 19:47:52

YANBU smile

IsItMeOr Fri 07-Aug-09 19:50:07

YANBU. But I can top this. When I bought my first car, somebody who I worked alongside, and had socialised with outside work at most a couple of times asked me to lend it to them so they could go on a week's holiday. Can you guess my answer, and the accompanying facial expression?

pamelat Fri 07-Aug-09 19:57:44

YANBU but I would be happy to lend our camcorder to almost anyone, with the proviso that if anything happens, they buy me a new one.

We dont use ours very often though, just for holidays etc.

daisymaybe Fri 07-Aug-09 20:07:06

YANBU, ultimately it would be you left with the problem if anything happened to it. It doesn't sound like they're the types to be ultra responsible and offer to replace it.

YesImSinister Fri 07-Aug-09 20:56:54

YANBU. You've not put unbearable conditions on the loan. If he's not happy with them, then he'll have to borrow one somewhere else.

shock at IsItMeOr's work colleague!

Paolosgirl Fri 07-Aug-09 21:00:03

YANBU to say no - but as Confuzzled said, it didn't sound as if he was being rude or aggressive in any way so I think you should just forgive and forget smile

LollipopViolet Fri 07-Aug-09 21:18:09

Just to clarify, he was perfectly polite asking- the rudeness I feel is from barely making an effort to see me, then calling up and wanting my stuff!

I've done some research, the hiring of equipment and operators together is common practice in the film/tv industry, where you're looking at £20,000 cameras and things, so I'm not exactly being awkward! I have no idea why they didn't check the DVD's earlier.

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