AIBU or was this just rude?

[LollipopViolet]

I've just had a phonecall that's made my jaw drop. One of my friends, who I rarely see anyway, has just rung asking if he can borrow my camcorder to film a performance by another friend's dance school. Now, I'm a media student at uni, and the camcorder was a present from my mum after I passed my GCSE's, as I was going on to do media at college too.

My mum bought it, my granddad insures it. So, I ask my friend, can I be there/be the camera person, I know my camera, I know the settings etc. He said they've got people, and they have a camera, but didn't get any compatible DVD's to use in it. So I ask how he plans to get the footage off the internal hard disk. "Oh, the dance company is gonna edit." So, I'd be loaning the thing to him, plus a group I don't even know, and not seeing it for days. Er, no. I said no, told him my reasons, didn't feel comfortable, it cost £300, I would prefer to be there etc.

I know I am being a little bit protective, but my mum and granddad have both just said the only way that that camera leaves this house is with me, since they bought it and insure it. I agree with them.

So was I being unreasonable, or were they disorganised and rude? I tried to compromise, if I was going to be there, or do the editing so I'd get it back tomorrow, no problem, but to lose it for a few days to people I've never met??

I think they were rude, and they should've checked to make sure the DVD's worked earlier.

[shinyshoes]

Bloody cheek if you ask me.

YANBU

[FabBakerGirlIsBack]

YANBU

Don't give it another thought.

[randomtask]

It sounds like they need to be organised and hoped you'd get them out of a hole.

But you were reasonable and they declined your offer so it's their problem.

[KembleTwins]

YANBU. They should buy their own if they want one that badly.

[Confuzzeled]

Why couldn't they get compatable DVD's?

Maybe he thought he'd try as he was stuck, you said No, end of story. I don't think it was rude, he was just asking, doesn't sound like he got nasty.

[katiestar]

YANBU

[Thunderduck]

YANBU.

[hippipotamiHasLost54lbs]

YANBU

[IsItMeOr]

YANBU. But I can top this. When I bought my first car, somebody who I worked alongside, and had socialised with outside work at most a couple of times asked me to lend it to them so they could go on a week's holiday. Can you guess my answer, and the accompanying facial expression?

[pamelat]

YANBU but I would be happy to lend our camcorder to almost anyone, with the proviso that if anything happens, they buy me a new one.

We dont use ours very often though, just for holidays etc.

[daisymaybe]

YANBU, ultimately it would be you left with the problem if anything happened to it. It doesn't sound like they're the types to be ultra responsible and offer to replace it.

[YesImSinister]

YANBU. You've not put unbearable conditions on the loan. If he's not happy with them, then he'll have to borrow one somewhere else.

at IsItMeOr's work colleague!

[Paolosgirl]

YANBU to say no - but as Confuzzled said, it didn't sound as if he was being rude or aggressive in any way so I think you should just forgive and forget

[LollipopViolet]

Just to clarify, he was perfectly polite asking- the rudeness I feel is from barely making an effort to see me, then calling up and wanting my stuff!

I've done some research, the hiring of equipment and operators together is common practice in the film/tv industry, where you're looking at £20,000 cameras and things, so I'm not exactly being awkward! I have no idea why they didn't check the DVD's earlier.