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pamelat Thu 06-Aug-09 19:23:29

DD 18 months.

I work 3 days, she goes to nursery.

I have 2 days with her, plus the weekend with DH around.

Am member of very nice and never used gym blush. Prior to going back to work used to do a friday morning class and put DD in creche.

I still want to do this but feel I should not?

She used to like it but now she is a bit clingier (been at nursery 6 months now) and seems to want "mummmeeeeeeeeeeeeee" a lot more.

So would I be unreasonable to put her in the creche (just for an hour) maybe once a fortnight? It feels wrong but I really want to do something and lose some weight.

Is it really selfish when I dont see her for 3 days (for more than about an hour or so)

pamelat Thu 06-Aug-09 19:24:27

See I can do things in the evening instead but can not be bothered so should I just kick myself up the bum and leave thurs and friday as mummy and DD time?

harleyd Thu 06-Aug-09 19:24:36

no, do it

Thunderduck Thu 06-Aug-09 19:24:54

No it isn't selfish.Not at all.

gonaenodaethat Thu 06-Aug-09 19:25:04

No

ChasingSquirrels Thu 06-Aug-09 19:25:34

do it

pamelat Thu 06-Aug-09 19:25:45

oh really, you think its ok? Its only an hour. Would love to get back in to it.

stuffitlllama Thu 06-Aug-09 19:25:51

I don't think so. I don't think work is "you" time and this is "you" time, just an hour, once a fortnight.

But you are the best judge of whether it will really upset her a lot.

Thunderduck Thu 06-Aug-09 19:26:22

There'd be nothing wrong with doing it weekly either.

TheCrackFox Thu 06-Aug-09 19:26:48

Do it and go to the gum once a week not once a fortnight. It is only an hour.

GetOrfMoiLand Thu 06-Aug-09 19:26:59

No, not at all selfish.

pamelat Thu 06-Aug-09 19:27:10

I think she will be fine in the end but will be upset for the first few times. I just wouldnt want her to feel that I am always trying to "get rid of her".

She is very confident with other children etc.

ChasingSquirrels Thu 06-Aug-09 19:27:21

it is not just "ok" it is positively a GOOD IDEA

Tidey Thu 06-Aug-09 19:27:48

I don't see anything wrong with that. Maybe if you were putting her in creche for the whole of the two days so you could spend the time shoe shopping and getting drunk, that might be unreasonable. But one hour a fortnight for the gym, I don't see how anyone could think that was worthy of a bad mummy award.

traceybath Thu 06-Aug-09 19:27:48

Do it weekly.

Tidey Thu 06-Aug-09 19:28:41

Oops, sorry, you only wanted short answers.

Do it.

pamelat Thu 06-Aug-09 19:28:45

I think it will feel better once she drops her nap too. She has 2 hours at lunch so even an hour in the morning and then home makes it seem like I will have hardly seen her .... until the afternoon I guesss.

DH says he thinks it fine too.

My mum says it is not and said "ahhhhh poor DD" which is why I am asking

HeadFairy Thu 06-Aug-09 19:29:08

I think go, it is for your health after all... it's not like you're going for a facial once a week (hang on, now there's an idea )

Thunderduck Thu 06-Aug-09 19:29:16

Ignore your mother.

ChasingSquirrels Thu 06-Aug-09 19:29:42

ask your mum if she will come to your house and mind her while she has her nap, and go to the gym then.

Mums!

pamelat Thu 06-Aug-09 19:29:47

Oh brilliant

I didn't mean that I only wanted short answers. Not sure what I meant. Just wanted telling I guess.

HeadFairy Thu 06-Aug-09 19:29:48

Do you have to do the weekdays? Can you go on a saturday and leave her with dh for some quality daddy time?

TheProfiteroleThief Thu 06-Aug-09 19:29:53

no
<<whispers, your health is important to your dc wellbeing too>>

troutpout Thu 06-Aug-09 19:30:17

do it

Thunderduck Thu 06-Aug-09 19:30:31

I can't understand why some people think that mothers should never do anything just for themselves.
Everyone need treats,you don't stop needing some me time because you're now a mother.

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