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to think that some people actualy hate their children?

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booyhoo Tue 04-Aug-09 23:28:01

getting ds' out of car at supermarket today and a family approached the car opposite, i wasnt taking notice until i heard,

" jesus christ, 3 f*cking times i told you to get your f*cking shoes on."

i looked up and it was the mum talking to a boy of about 7/8. she then said to the dad, look what he's got on him. he had his slippers on him. and the dad said,

"if i have to speak to you once more today, im going to f*cking punch you...very hard."

the boy didnt answer, just dropped his eyes to the ground and got in the car. it was very hard to hear them speaking to him like that and not say anything. i dread to think what was said to him when they got home. i really hope the dad's threat was an empty one.

ScummyMummy Tue 04-Aug-09 23:28:55

That's awful.

gingerbunny Tue 04-Aug-09 23:30:33

that's really awful, the poor little boy.
i really hate people like that, they really don't deserve to have children.
Even if I was having the worst day in the world I could never say that to a child.

booyhoo Tue 04-Aug-09 23:33:08

i really had to bite my tongue. very hard and my ds (4) heard it all as i was in the middle of undoing ds2's carseat straps so couldnt bundle them away from it. ds just looked up at me as if to say, 'i know thats wrong mummy'

FluffyBunnyGoneBad Tue 04-Aug-09 23:33:19

sad

I was chatting to a member of staff in Games Workshop today, he was telling me about parents leaving their children there all day, one parent left a 7 year old there, in the snow, no jumper/coat, no money and didn't collect him. The staff ended up taking him to Mc Donalds for something to eat and walking him home, mum wasn't there, was at someone elses house, they took him there and she was stoned!! shock

booyhoo Tue 04-Aug-09 23:34:32

fluffy thats terrible, why do they have children if not to love them and enjoy them?

FluffyBunnyGoneBad Tue 04-Aug-09 23:37:46

sad

gingerbunny Wed 05-Aug-09 07:49:32

what kind of minds do these people have? i think i'd have rung the police and said he'd been abandoned. poor kid.

Flower3545 Wed 05-Aug-09 07:58:11

"the boy didn't answer, just dropped his eyes to the ground and got in the carsad

and all those poor people who would sell their souls to have children but can'tsad

piscesmoon Wed 05-Aug-09 08:10:53

I never know what to do in that sort of situation. I always think that if they are prepared to say that in public it must be much worse at home.

ElieRM Wed 05-Aug-09 08:28:05

Very worrying. I know its no excuse but i imagine those parents have been brought up experiencing similar mistreatment. It's breaking the cycle.
Having said that, its not hard to appreciate that speaking to your offspring, or indeed anyone, like that is wrong. poor boy.

chosenone Wed 05-Aug-09 08:43:37

God I hate this kind of thing, its heartbreaking! I saw a man really put his son down "you always have to ruin everything don't you, you always ruin are fucking day don't you..." he was literally spitting the words out and eyeballing his kid who was about 6! It made me well up! As a teacher I hear a lot of tales of neglect like the Game story above, one mum used to leave her son and daughter at the Cinema and then go drinking all day, forget them and Social services were often called as they'd had little to eat and drink and would be scared of wandering round the town sad

chosenone Wed 05-Aug-09 08:44:15

our day

cocolepew Wed 05-Aug-09 08:49:24

I hate this. If I'm on my own I sometimes interfer try to say something. I stood in front of a womans trolley in Tesco once. She was literally screaming obcenities at a 3 year old, and looking around her pleased as punch. Another woman came over to her at the same time to tell her to stop. She was with her mum who walked away when we went over and she shut up pretty quick.

I also went to he aid of a girl in my DDs school whose mum was calling her a 'fucking c*nt' at the top of her voice and pushing her against the wall, repeatedly. Unfortunately I got a punch in the face that time.

petitmaman Wed 05-Aug-09 08:53:44

cocolepew shock
does that not put you off doing something if you saw it again?
i am such a wuss.

cocolepew Wed 05-Aug-09 09:04:41

I do try to not get too involved but these 2 instances were very bad. The woman in the school was always screaming at her daughter, it really used to upset me. The fact that she was pushing her was why I intervened instead of getting a teacher, I thought she was really going to hurt her. When a, male, teacher came to help she headbutted him and broke his nose.

It's really hard to know whether to get involved or not. You don't want to make it worse for the children. But, on the other hand, you don't want them to get hurt.sad

3cutedarlings Wed 05-Aug-09 09:09:46

good for you coco fwiw im the same,i just cant keep my gob shut when DCs are involved. And why should we? if more people stuck their noses maybe these twats might think twice!

Gateau Wed 05-Aug-09 09:12:28

Awh;poor little boy. Just reading that makes me feel sick and it will be on my mind all day. Let's hope this was a one-off and the parents were having a very bad day. Somehow I doubt it.
It just makes me want to hug my little DS closer. But I know that doesn't help all those poor little souls out there. sad

booyhoo Wed 05-Aug-09 12:48:14

pisces that's what i was thinking. or really trying not to think about.

i did feel like intefering but tbh i wouldnt know what to say that would have any impact on these parents other than to make them more angry.

FabBakerGirlIsBack Wed 05-Aug-09 12:51:42

I did intervene with one mother once and she actually came over and thanked me.

I am not sure where I got the nerve from tbh but I couldn't bear not too.

MoonIsATiredSlayer Wed 05-Aug-09 12:59:23

My stomach is churning reading this and I want to cry for those poor children who have to grow up in that sort of environment. I like to think that I would have intervened as well Coco but well done you for having the guts to do it.

The most I've done recently was have a go at a (massive!) bloke who was walking up the street effing and blinding at his friend who was 100yards up the road on the other side. There were loads of young kids around with parents(busy high street)and I got really cross and told him to shut up and that no-one wanted to hear that language. Thought afterwards it might have actually been a bad idea cos he looked a right nut job. he shut up though.

booyhoo Wed 05-Aug-09 14:14:41

very brave moon, i dont think i would have had the guts.

and 3 cutedarlings is right, if more people spoke out then people might realise how wrong their behaviour is.

katiestar Wed 05-Aug-09 21:49:42

No I feel sorry for the mum.
A couple of years ago we went out for the day .After 2 hours drive we arrived and DS2 then aged 9 announced he hadn't brought his shoes.I mean how can you go out for the day in just your socks ?We then had to make a 45 minute detour to find somewhere to buy him a cheap pair of crocs

Can't remember but I'm sure that day the air would have turned blue

Its ridiculous to say the mum didn't love her child , she was just extremely and understandably exasperated

BertieBotts Wed 05-Aug-09 21:59:34

Katie it was the Dad's comment, not the mum's - that could have easily been excused as a bad day.

ClaireDeLoon Wed 05-Aug-09 22:02:27

To my eternal shame I sat one day and listened to my neighbour scream at her child that he was fucking stupid etc etc etc. For about 10 mins, it just went on and on and was so loud, I was downstairs and I they were upstairs from where the noise was coming from. I did not know what to do, the boy would have been pre-school at the time, it was a number of years ago. The father was aggressive towards us and so I was scared what reporting would do. But he always seemed a good father and still seems so (the wife has left but the father has the son a lot). Like I say, eternal shame though, that poor boy. I just hope the mother has moved on from her anger.

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