Advanced search

To think' SHUT UP!!!!???'

(16 Posts)
kinnies Sun 02-Aug-09 18:12:15

Sil has just been chating on the phone to Dh for about an hour & apparently she has stoped bf her Dd (8mths old)& says I should do the same. My Dd is 18mths and we are quite happy bf.

She says that if we all get the dreaded swine flue then my Dd will end up making me more unwell by bf.
To be honest I wouldnt care as long as she was getting comfort from me!!!

Also had a long talk about Dds bedtime.
Dd is a little monkey going to bed so dont mind advise but it just rubbed me up the wrong way as i've been a mum for 8.5yrs and shes only been one for 8mths

Am i beeing a dick to be [humm] ?

kinnies Sun 02-Aug-09 18:13:37

hmm blush

K999 Sun 02-Aug-09 18:14:29

Folk always like to stick their noses in to other folks business. Some people class themselves as experts after a few short months of parenthood......who cares what she or any one else thinks? As long as you and your family are happy then thats all that matters! smile

HumphreyCobbler Sun 02-Aug-09 18:16:13

She is talking crap.

It would annoy me too.

PrincessToadstool Sun 02-Aug-09 18:17:07

Ah one of those, my neighbour - one baby, 6 months - tries to give me advice that I don't ask for regarding my toddler. I smile and nod and think 'you wait, love'.

None of her business if you BF now, in another year, or another three or four years!

and she is of course wrong about SF anyway.

Tidey Sun 02-Aug-09 18:17:41

Thinking it, reasonable.

Screaming it at her, unreasonable.

She should probably realise that different parents do different things with regard to bedtime, stopping bf, and countless other things, and just because she thinks her way is right, doesn't make it so for everyone else.

MovingOutOfBlighty Sun 02-Aug-09 18:20:07

I'm pretty sure I have pissed people off in the past with inadvertant advice and after 8.5 years I'm fairly sure you have probably done the same. Its not always easy to know what buttons get pressed on other people. She is a bit of a fool but hey ho.

On a scale of 1 to 10 of being offended this would probably register 0.5. If you don't otherwise like her then by all means make a big thing of it, otherwise I would drop it.

Don't mean to sound harsh but sometimes on this website it seems as though it is too easy to get wound up by this kind of thing.

HumphreyCobbler Sun 02-Aug-09 18:21:41

It is typical of a certain type of person that they think that the time to stop breastfeeding is when THEY did. Could be two months, could be six or eight, but anyone who feeds longer than them is obviously a freak..

kinnies Sun 02-Aug-09 18:21:48

i'm tempted to do the same back but will try to avoid.
some folk seem to have a problem with me still bf & it pi**es me off cos i'm not doing it for myself!

hmc Sun 02-Aug-09 18:24:07

"as i've been a mum for 8.5yrs and shes only been one for 8mths"

Actually that bit in particular would annoy the sh*t out of me! How very dare she presume to know better grin


MovingOutOfBlighty Sun 02-Aug-09 18:24:58

I do wonder what the motivation of your DH was about telling you this. Don't think my dh would have told me if it had been something that he knew would upset me as he wouldn't want to put a wedge between my sil and I.
Just wondering, is he trying to tell you something through what she is saying? Is he as happy about your DDs sleep and whether it is related to BF?

kinnies Sun 02-Aug-09 18:29:35

she is really a nice person and i enjoy her company so wont fall out with her.

she semms to think that my Dh is unable to parent as well as her and B-il (which is of corse tosh)

Must not get my knickers in a twist
must not get my knickers in a twist


MovingOutOfBlighty Sun 02-Aug-09 18:31:26

Keep that one in your head then kinnies! I often have to bite by tongue with the ILs.

You should see my MIL/SIL faces about the fact that I am a (gasp) working mother! But they are so sweet otherwise I give them that one as a freebie! grin

kinnies Sun 02-Aug-09 18:33:03


Dh was on the phone in the lounge and i was near by so i heard his side of the convo and i asked him about it when he'd finnished.
so not that

MovingOutOfBlighty Sun 02-Aug-09 18:34:48

Ah, I do that too. blush but their conversation is always alot more dull than yours!

kinnies Sun 02-Aug-09 18:42:48

guess i should stop being so nosey cos he prob wouldnt have told me if i had'nt already heard so much and in the grand scale of things nothing to sweat about grin

i shall go and put finishing touches to dinner (roast with ^yourkshire puds^)and concentraite on more important stuff like world peace, famin and peter & jordan ect

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, watch threads, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now »

Already registered? Log in with: