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englishpatient Sat 01-Aug-09 18:37:38

for DS (6) not standing up to wee?! He still sits down.

I think DH should be the one to persuade him - after all I can't really demonstrate can I?

The trouble is, DH is not very good at getting on the DCs' wavelengths to get them to do things.

Any tips?

K999 Sat 01-Aug-09 18:39:22

What difference does it make if he stands or sits?? As long as he is weeing!! smile

Tidey Sat 01-Aug-09 18:40:19

Do boys get persuaded into it? I had assumed that eventually they would just realise they could and it was less hassle, or that they saw other men or boys do it and followed suit.

If the second case is true, how's he supposed to have learned it from you? I am presuming you don't pee standing up.

PrincessToadstool Sat 01-Aug-09 18:40:50

Sitting is much more hygienic. We plan to teach DS both ways but encourage him to sit. I don't really want to clean wee off the floor.

Bert2e Sat 01-Aug-09 18:41:10

Do not encourage standing - you'll be forever mopping up wee wink

englishpatient Sat 01-Aug-09 18:41:36

K999, I don't mind if he still sits down! It's just that DH does, and says it's my fault! I have so far thought that if DS is not keen, trying to make him would be counterproductive, and he will do it when he's ready.

bronze Sat 01-Aug-09 18:41:47

Are you supposed to wee standing up then toshow him?

Tidey Sat 01-Aug-09 18:43:11

Forgot to say - my DS was still sitting to pee when he was six too, it's only in the last six months or so he's been standing. I don't really know why he started doing it, hence my above assumptions.

englishpatient Sat 01-Aug-09 18:43:34

Tidey, PrincessToadstool, Bert2e - your posts crossed with my reply to K999. No, I don't pee standing up!! As I said to K999, I am not bothered that he sits down!

englishpatient Sat 01-Aug-09 18:44:16

Bronze - NO WAY!! smile

FabBakerGirlIsBack Sat 01-Aug-09 18:44:28

Your DH is a piss head.

GeeWhizz Sat 01-Aug-09 18:44:29

YANBU DH has the right equipment to show him not you.

Can they not just go into the toilet together?

englishpatient Sat 01-Aug-09 18:46:48

GeeWhizz - they do, but DS does not want to do it DH's way - he has seen it plenty of times.

edam Sat 01-Aug-09 18:48:14

I had to ask dh to show ds - ds wanted very much to pee standing up but I really couldn't advise him on technique... grin

englishpatient Sat 01-Aug-09 18:51:28

Exactly Edam! grin

danthe4th Sat 01-Aug-09 18:52:19

He goes to school doesn't he? well surely he has seen his friends in the toilet,he probably just prefers it.

KnickKnack Sat 01-Aug-09 18:52:28

DS started standing up when he was about 6 and half, possibly even closer to 7yrs. Lots of his friends were standing from age 3 or 4.

I think leave him to it, it really doesn't matter either way, and probably better not to make an issue out of it.

edam Sat 01-Aug-09 18:55:42

Thing is, dh kept saying oh, yes, I'll do that and then NOT getting around to it. V. irritating. There's only so much help of the 'I think you use your fingers to point your willy, darling' variety that I can give, really!

oldraver Sat 01-Aug-09 18:56:06

DS1 still sits down to pee and thinks standing a bit yuk. I wish my brother sat down as he just cannot aim right

slowreadingprogress Sat 01-Aug-09 19:27:44

how utterly bizarre your dh would blame you for this

It's a non issue anyway but if your dh chooses to think it's an issue then clearly it's he who needs to be the one to encourage/show ds.

englishpatient Sat 01-Aug-09 22:01:31

I agree totally with you, slowreadingprogress.

Thanks for everyone's supportive posts!

proverbial Sat 01-Aug-09 23:08:14

Your DH sounds a bit of a knob, if he cares either way he should be the one to do something about it. Whats wrong with sitting down to wee?
That said, there's no reason why you can't teach DS to wee standing up, its not hard.

maggievirgo Sat 01-Aug-09 23:10:37

WEll........... somebody said to me that only germans wee sitting down and that I would need to show my son how to wee standig up. not sure how I'm going to do that,being asingle parent. but ah well, eins wei drei. hit the target if you can...

serenity Sat 01-Aug-09 23:12:25

DSs sit down to wee at home, always have done but apparently are happy enough to use urinals when they're out. Does it matter? I've never got this "it's not manly to sit" thing, probably because I'm a woman smile

Quattrocento Sat 01-Aug-09 23:12:59

Why do you want your DS to stand up to wee?

Why is this important?

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