to think you should not accompany someone to an ante natal clinic with a streaming cold?

[isoldeone]

I rarely get indignant . I'm fed up about hearing about swine flu and how vunerable and think "oh well.." if I get I get it but yesterday I just thought that's not on whilst I waited.

The pregnant lady who had a different ethnic origin to her partner was accompanied by an older lady in her 50's who sat next to her partner. She looked liked ( hence I mentioned ethnic origin) she was more likely to be partners mum so probably not mum of pregnant lady . She sneezed, coughed and spluttered into her hankie whilst waiting. I am mean in thinking - OK people need support when they go for a scan but partner was there but I would have given it a miss or sat in the car if giving a lift.

I don't want your cold madam!

[proverbial]

Don't be so precious, you are pregnant, not in quarantine. There will be people with colds everywhere you go, if you are that bothered, stay in the house.

[isoldeone]

I had to go for a scan myself. I am of the "if I get it , I get it" school of thought and haven't shut myself away. I just felt this lady was being inconsiderate to others who are a little vunerable and the last thing a pregnant woman wants is a streaming cold. I am trying to think of a good reason why she should be there.

If I have a stinking cold for example - I normally take a day off work so not to spread it to colleagues. I would not take someone to an antenatal clinic and sit there spreading germs.

[LuluMaman]

maybe she was really excited to be at the scan of her first grandchild?

wherever you go , you will encounter germs , and as you say she was coughing and spluttering into her hankie, which is better than spraying snot everyhwre

[isoldeone]

no doubt she's excited but at whose expense if someone pregnant has now caught that cold or - whispers - flu???

my point is - was it essential for her to be there if the partner was there? If she had been with the pregnant lady on her own I would have thought - well maybe she doesn't have a choice to give it a miss.

[proverbial]

Why shouldn't she be there? Its a cold, you have no reason to believe she had swine flu or anything worse than a cold. The "I'm pregnant, I'm special, how dare you be sick near me" is really irritating.

[LuluMaman]

if she had flu, she would have been unable to get out of bed

and if she had mild swine flu. she might not even know she had it

people are jsut as entiteld as you to go about their daily business

she might have had hayfever for all you know

or just a regular common cold

[isoldeone]

"Its a cold, you have no reason to believe she had swine flu or anything worse than a cold. - I agree it was probably no more than a streaming cold.

The "I'm pregnant, I'm special, how dare you be sick near me" is really irritating."

I agree proverbial- colds and germs are part of life - but this was an antenatal/scan clinic waiting room - not someone sat on a bus or behind me in a tescos trying to get on with daily life.

surely some consideration in this situation?.

[LuluMaman]

you don;t know why the woman was there

there could hae been a really good reason

or none at all

but i bet she was just an excited grandma to be

i think you are being unreasonable

you did ask !

[munchkinpoppet]

I have to say I'm quite supprised at the response so far. Yes you may come into contact with people with colds anywhere but why would anyone with a cold go somewhere specifically where vulnerable people may be?! Those scanners are also used to detect things other than babies. If she was just an excited granny to be, why couldn't she have just waited for the next scan when she may be well again?

[munchkinpoppet]

I hope you don't catch her cold btw, and congrats. Don't think yabu at all!

[jellybeans]

YANBU People are selfish, I am fed up of having to avoid kids with flu/slapped cheek/chicken pox out in public areas.

[nickytwotimes]

I don't think you are bu either.
It is a place populated by pg women.

[proverbial]

Was the antenatal clinic in a hospital? I hope they kept any sick people out of the corridors and lifts for you then too....