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hunniesugarplum Sat 01-Aug-09 10:23:53

DP and i are expecting DC1 30/10/09, obv first christmas not far after. I know full well this baby will be spoilt by all family - mine and DP's and i am a realist who realises that they will not have a clue about christmas this year, i am also realistic to know whilst i say i wont want to go mad this may not be the case!!

Anyway my question is- WIBU to just get baby clothes and one or two toys for the first chrismas? i would be aiming to spend prob around £50 max, more likely less. my feeling being, everyone else will get lots of toys bits for baby, and as a child grows and knows more of christmas, so do there expectations, so the money side of things will surely be made up for over the years, especially when you consider the costs involved in just having a baby, and the current climate?! or am i being a skinflint??

LIZS Sat 01-Aug-09 10:25:18

Sounds pretty sensible to me or buy a keepsake type present (ie set of Beatirx Potter books).

hunniesugarplum Sat 01-Aug-09 10:35:17

thanks i didnt think we were being unreasonable really, We will be getting him / her a reindeer suit for christmas day ( bit of cheese i know but a tradition in our family! also will do for new years as we always have a fancy dress party) and was planning on getting few cheapy bits just trinkets really, as not exactly gong to be flush! has definately made me feel better though!

was going to ask the grandparents for the beatrix potters and HC andersons and maybe the grimms too as they are nice to have.

thanks again!

diedandgonetodevon Sat 01-Aug-09 10:36:13

DS was 3 months old last Christmas & I have to admit DH & I didn't get him anything. He was showered with gifts from everyone else so I didn't really see the point in adding to the mountain.

stubbyfingers Sat 01-Aug-09 10:41:38

YANBU DS was born in October and we didn't buy him anything for his first Christmas except a santa suit blush which I found hilarious even if no-one else did!

Like you say, the rest of the family will spoil him which is fine.

SixtyFootDoll Sat 01-Aug-09 10:44:30

Can we have Summer first before we start worrying about Christmas?grin

oftenpurple Sat 01-Aug-09 10:45:23

DD is a September baby and while she did get a few things from us, it was mainly a santa-type dress and one cute Winnie the Pooh teddy. I did ask for practical gifts when pressed but DD was the first girl in our family since my sister and I so she was showered with gifts.

KingRolo Sat 01-Aug-09 10:48:11

Yanbu. DD was born in Oct08 and all we bought her for Christmas was a rattle and a little teddy. Relatives bought lots of toys and clothes and generally spoilt her rotten. We reckoned we'd spent enough already on all the baby stuff we needed before she was born.

This Christmas she'll be 14 months and I don't think we'll buy too much this time either. She's still too little to know what it's all about.

munchkinpoppet Sat 01-Aug-09 10:57:18

Sorry to change the subject but I'd just like to say my birthday is the 31st October, halloween and I Love it! Just in case you were worried about that as I have a colleage who was determined her baby not be born on that date. It always felt a bit more special to me. Sorry for interupting grin
don't think YABU at all.

hunniesugarplum Sat 01-Aug-09 11:07:12

haha thanks munchkin my mums is also halloween, so im actually hoping for it to be that day! or failing that fireworks night!

KiwiKat Sat 01-Aug-09 11:07:28

Very wise decision, Hunnie.

proverbial Sat 01-Aug-09 12:25:17

Why would you buy anything? The baby won't know, the family will be too busy showerin you with all kinds of crap you don't need or have room for, why on earth would you add to it?

Fairynufff Sat 01-Aug-09 12:30:15

exactly what proverbial said.

skidoodle Sat 01-Aug-09 12:37:18

Yanbu, although I think £50 is quite a lot to spend on a present for a small child. That is around what we spent for dd's first Christmas last year.

Hope you get a hallowe'en birthday

hunniesugarplum Sat 01-Aug-09 12:43:20

proverbial i would liek to buy something as that is what feels right to me, just a small few things, believing that you cannot spoil an inherently good thing, and knowing that my child wont be spoilt i dont see any harm in "adding to the piles" by one or two gifts.

thanks skidoodle i dont think it will reach the £50 mark in the end, also think this baby will have no choice about hallowe'en, my mum has already said if he/she comes early i'll "have to cross my legs" bless her! smile

proverbial Sat 01-Aug-09 12:46:28

Then why are you asking? hmm

purpleflower Sat 01-Aug-09 12:49:39

Ds was born Oct 06 and only got a couple of bits from us for his first christmas, about £15. The next year he got some clothes and the 3rd some toys coming to around £20.

DD was born Oct 08 and got nothing from us for christmas and will only get needed things this year.

DS will probably get a bit more this year as he is starting to understand but when they are tiny it's a waste.

hunniesugarplum Sat 01-Aug-09 12:53:04

uh proverbial i didnt!!i was asking for opinions on what is considered reasonable to spend, at no point did i ask should i bother, so dont get all hmm!! i wouldnt have taken issue at your comment had it nopt of been put accross in such a weirdly sharp way... i am of course happy to hear from people who didnt get them anything, but for better or worse, i couldnt get absolutely nothing, so i objected to your tone not your statement smile. most of what i will get will probably be things i would of bought at that time anyway.

SummerC Sat 01-Aug-09 12:55:32

DD was born 22 December and she got NOTHING the first year and very little last year. She had loads of boxes to open, but there was very little in them. She had more fun tearing off the paper than playing with what was inside.

nickschick Sat 01-Aug-09 12:56:17

A wise suggestion I was given was to save any bits of money towards things that the baby will need in between xmas and birthday for example a stroller toy is great thing for a baby of about 8 months but obviously this comes between the 2 dates but if you saved great aunty ethels £10 from xmas come june shed love to know that your dc had spent her gift wisely and was enjoying it.

skidoodle Sat 01-Aug-09 13:01:14

There is no way I could have got dd nothing for her first Christmas. It was a sentimental thing. We got her something kind of ridiculous but cool that will do her for years.

I can quite see that if you're not a christmas person then it makes sense to save the money. I'm guessing that if you're already thinking about presents in august for a baby that's not due for 2 months, then Christmas probably matters to you.

hunniesugarplum Sat 01-Aug-09 13:04:46

yes christmas is important to me, i was orphaned so christmases have been tough at times (have a step mum who is fab and sister etc so no violins required) so want to make babys first christmas perfect! im thinking of it as im sat here with nothing to do, although i am a planner, and dp and i have discussed it as we are both very excited , cant wait! smile

nickschick we will defo be doing that any funds will be saved for future bits and bobs a very good idea!

Kayzr Sat 01-Aug-09 13:11:02

DS2 was 12 days old and we got him some clothes, little teddy's etc.

gillybeanie Sat 01-Aug-09 13:18:27

i tried doing that when DS was born..but each time i went xmas shopping i ended upbuying presents for him but he was my PFB and now i have two DC xmas is just that little more exiciting smile

SlartyBartFast Sat 01-Aug-09 13:33:51

my ds had a stocking blush, as well as a prsent. they were the most difficult presents to buy at that age. <<6 weeks>>
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but it was for me admittedly, not the presents obviously, just the idea.

however i think £50 is too much, unless you count something useful, next stage clothes, for e.g

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