Aww shit, it's like being back in the playground but here goes.
My neighbour and I started to get to know each other about two years ago and we have built up a frienship since then. I walk her dog while she is at work and we share a bottle of wine a few nights a week. I introduced her to my bessie mate a while back and they got on like a house on fire. To which I thought great!BUT
They have started doing things together and not inviting me and I'm feeling a bit fucked off to be honest. They are both without children and single whereas I have two kids and I am in a relationship so they have lots in common that I don't share. I am pissed off that they have 'gone off' with each other, am I being unreasonable?
yanbu but neither are they I think. As long as you are included in everything that's practical and reasonable I don't think there's anything wrong with them getting on so well they do the spontaneous fun things you can do together when you don't have DCs. (I had to look up spontaneous btw, it's been so long ) I do know how you feel though but I think you just have to accept yabu
Could you have gone on the night out? It sounds to me as though they maybe presumed you couldn't come-if you were just not invited then why would they tell you?
Are you still seeing them both, sharing bottles of wine etc? If so, then a good natured moan than you would really love to go on a good night out will probably do the trick. If not, it makes it trickier and a lot more like being back in the playground.
I feel like this sometimes too, but issue lots of invitations for dinner and drinks at mine so I still get girly fun (that actually sounds a bit rude, but you know what I mean).
And you do have a huge portion of life that they just might not 'get'. Have you got 'mum' friends too? By that I mean people you genuinely click with who happen to also have children, not just randoms you wouldn't bother with if they didn't hang around the same toddler group/school gate with? I have a few, and it makes a huge difference when you feel left out of the single stuff.
Thanks FF, Yes I do have Mum friends and they don't know them. We do daytime things wwith kids etc. I couldn't go out last weekend as I didn't have any childcare, but neighbour and friend suggested a girly night on the Sunday which didn't happen but I then found out that they spent that evening together. I mentioned it to my friend today and she said 'I can't be expected to take you everwhere!' to which I replied 'but you said...um'
yes, I think there might be some jealousy involved from my neighbour friend as she really wanted kids but never got around to it with her ex. I do feel she is almost trying to piss me off on purpose passive agressively