Went to pick up my son who's 3 from the childminder today after work and whilst chatting to the childminder and her helper DS swiped (playfully) at her older son.
He was holding my hand at the time and I honestly didn't notice or I would have reprimanded him myself but had I have, I doubt I would have gotten in quick enough as she jumped on it so quickly...
Anyway, the point is not that she told him off, thats fine, he needed to be told. My problem was the way she did it.
She's quite a loud person anyway but I have to say the way she shouted at my son made ME feel quite taken aback let alone him. She said (to him) she didn't care if he was playing about it wasn't on, etc etc. All the words she used were fine, it was more the way it was done.
If she had spoken to me like that I think I would have either nearly cried myself or punched her on the nose as I would have been quite intimidated..
He very quickly burst into tears and I tried to get him to apologise to the other child as no, hitting is not acceptable, but he was in such a state and burying his head in my shoulder that they had to leave to go to an appointment (the helpers were looking after the kids, which is fine).
I'm left feeling quite upset about the incident and feel I should have taken him straight out and away from there (protected him) or stepped in straight away and said calm down/don't shout at my son. But I didn't, I let her do it.
I understand kids can be trying at times, and I have shouted at DS before, tho not quite like that...
Normally he is well behaved but I think as the school holidays have started and there are more kids it's all the more exciting.
Anyway, am I being unreasonable to think this was out of order? I know not everyone can be Supernanny when it comes to discipline but this isn't right, is it? Am I being an overprotective blinkered mum who thinks her darling son can do no wrong?
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Upset at childminder shouting at DS.
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Cazzr · 28/07/2009 18:35
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