DS is 8 and lately and I am finding him more and more infuriating. He talks incessantly which would be fine if everything he said made sense but he asks questions he already knows the answer to, talks constantly about computer games when he knows that not everyone had played these games or has any interest in them and often talks without having anything planned to say. For example a lot of his conversations start with "What if erm erm how about erm could I erm and erm well..." until he thinks of something to say. He has admitted he often makes up conversations as he goes along and asks silly questions because he likes to talk / likes attention.
He interrupts conversations constantly and I can never have a conversation with anyone without him butting in every minute or so. Most people are understanding and I always tell him to wait but he keeps doing it. If I bump into someone I know but he doesn't eg old work colleagues, he will still interrupt to ask them ridiculous questions like "Why is your hair red?" etc etc. He bombards them with talk when often it is obvious they are only after a quick conversation.
He NEVER listens and it has got so bad that I have been called into school to see his teacher twice about this. When people ask him a question he often ignores it because he is so intent on talking about things that he wants to talk about or just says "Yep" quickly before going back to HIS chosen topic of conversation
I am relatively new to where I live and a few months ago I met a new group of friends. Before I met them I was very lonely and I have been so much happier since I met them. Yesterday Ds and I went round to one of these friends houses and for no reason DS interrupts our conversation to say that I had been saying I was fed up with another of our mutual friends. The woman in question is probably the nicest out of all of them and I know 110% that I have never said anything of the sort. I got a stilted reply from the friend I was with and I am now terrified this is going to affect my friendship with this group of women. No matter how much I protest in the future that this was not said by me, they are probably not going to believe me and I do not want to be the lonely person I was last year. This is the final straw for me and I am seething at DS. He has lied for no reason other than to get a minute of attention yet this could affect me in a big way. I feel like screaming at him and I hate feeling like this.
Ds is an only child and I have always tried to give him the childhood I never had. I spend a lot of time with him, we have our special saturdays where we always do something nice together just me and him and I always encourage him to have friends over so he is not lonely. I have talked and talked with him about how he should talk about things that others are interested in too, how it is rude to interrupt and how he should think about what he is going to say before he says it. I have spent hours discussing how important listening skills are but he does not take a blind bit of notice. I often see him when he goes into school or comes out of school with the other kids and I can see that many of them are exasperated with him which makes my heart break for him. He is a lovely child at heart but he is not doing himself any favours and does not seem to realise the damage he is doing to himself and others around him.
Any ideas because yesterday I don't think I have ever been as mad at him as I was then
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To be at the end of my tether with Ds and on occasion to be embarrassed for him (long sorry)
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Notalone · 28/07/2009 16:07
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