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So, is it reasonable to expect your dog to be allowed into a friend's house?

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HerBeatitude · 28/07/2009 12:11

Am I being unreasonable not to let my friend's dog in? I have a 100ft garden where he can go and play while she visits and he gets water out there, I won't let him in because he smells and he makes little footprints all over the floor and I can't be arsed to clean them up. She feels hard done by and thinks I should just put up with him.

Who is an unreasonable prima donna, her or me?

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AnyFucker · 28/07/2009 12:13

why does she even bring him to your house ?

YANBU, your house, your rules

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mememememeitsallaboutme · 28/07/2009 12:13

I would not let someone else's dog in my house. It's their choice to have a dog, not mine.

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SoupDragon · 28/07/2009 12:14

Her.

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Picante · 28/07/2009 12:14

No way is a dog coming in my house.

YANBU.

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GirlsAreLoud · 28/07/2009 12:15

YANBU and I say that as a dog owner.

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CybilLiberty · 28/07/2009 12:15

I am with you HerBea.

I would be most put out if a friend assumed I would welcome her dog.

In fact we asked our BIL and SIL not to bring their smelly, blind, incontinent hound into our house last time they visited. They were most black affronted.

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chapstickchick · 28/07/2009 12:16

I have a dog hes very much loved and im afraid really quite spoilt so much so that its only just lately ive started to leave him home alone.

I have several friends one whose home is dog free and spotless she would invite me round and i would go when there was someone in my home to look after the dog,even though she did say bring the dog too-i respected the fact she didnt have a dog and didnt need doggy mess.

Another friend who also has dogs used to invite us up a lot and insist i take the dog in fact we all were invited for new years eve!!

I wouldnt expect you to put up with it and you are not being unreasonable.

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Bibelots · 28/07/2009 12:17

I might start lugging my cat about (when I don't want friends any more).

YANBU

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diedandgonetodevon · 28/07/2009 12:18

No, YANBU. Letting her leave him in the garden is more than reasonable.

It would never occur to me to presume everyone loves my dog and would want her in their house.

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expatinscotland · 28/07/2009 12:18

YANBU!

Gross.

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Seuss · 28/07/2009 12:20

YANBU! Especially since you are quite happy for him to use your garden

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brimfull · 28/07/2009 12:20

yanbu

but I let people bring their dogs in

I would expect them to make sure they were clean though

My dog would have been a pest if left outside and scratched at the door to be let in...much easier to leave them at home.

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Insanity · 28/07/2009 12:21

YANBU and I also say that as a dog owner!
I wouldnt want my friends dog in my house, shes coming to see me, not a social outing for her dog!!

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ShellingPeas · 28/07/2009 12:21

YANBU - my friend's dogs are put in our garden when she visits, not inside.

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MillyR · 28/07/2009 12:21

I don't think it is reasonable to take an uninvited dog to someone else's house, anymore than it is reasonable to turn up with your mother/friend/child that wasn't invited.

Many people have an allergy/cat/fearful child/dog that doesn't want company in their house and so you can't just take a dog around to someone's house unless it is a guide dog of some sort.

It is very accommodating of you to give it the run of the garden.

I say this as a dog owner.

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CybilLiberty · 28/07/2009 12:22

I feel I have to deep clean my house if a dog comes in. Those manky paws yuck.

Hang on, perhaps DOG SHOES might be in order.

New thread'Would you insist on visiting dogs wearing dog shoes?'

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CybilLiberty · 28/07/2009 12:23

I've cornered the market. See you on Dragons Den

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MmeLindt · 28/07/2009 12:23

I would be a bit peeved if a friend asked me not to leave the dog in the garden, simply because my dog would be miserable on her own in the garden, she is very sociable, not smelly and not messy. Or would not be if I were visiting, I would make sure I did not go for a long messy walk first.

If I have a friend who does not like dogs (haven't so far) then I would prefer to leave the dog at home, given advance warning.

YANBU to let her know that you don't like the dog in the house, your house, your rules and she and her dog have to abide by them.

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simplesusan · 28/07/2009 12:24

YANBU
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HerBeatitude · 28/07/2009 12:24

ROFL at those dog shoes, where d'you get them?

I might get the dog those as a christmas present...

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bethdivine · 28/07/2009 12:25

YANBU - I wouldn't even let our friends bring their great big dog into our garden when visiting - we have 2 cats who are mightily territorial and I don't think it would be fair to them to subject them to a huge dog running round their space!

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MmeLindt · 28/07/2009 12:25

"asked me to leave the dog in the garden."

That did not make sense.

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mcfee · 28/07/2009 12:25

As a dog owner I am aware that dogs are smelly filthy creatures who mean that loads of hoovering / floor-washing has to be done.
As a dog owner I love my dog though!
But it's MY dog and MY home and MY choice therefore you are more than entitled to your choice also.
So YANBU.

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CybilLiberty · 28/07/2009 12:25

CybilLiberties Dog Shoe Emporium, opening soon.

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CybilLiberty · 28/07/2009 12:26

for country dogs

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