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To leave visiting child hysterical in the conservatory till he calms himself down.

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sunburntats Sun 26-Jul-09 20:45:13

He fell out of the trampoline cos they didnt zip it up. (they normally do this without bieng told)

He was screaming his head off. I cuddled him, asked where he had hurt marks, nothing.
Ok me thinks, he has shocked himself....more high pitched ear splitting screamig the street down.

More cuddles/soothing/calming words.....louder screaching.
I said through the screaming....when you feel better, come and find me and we will talk.
I pulled the door to, and left him.

2 mins later, screaming abated, he wandered into the kitchen, told me he hurt his marks, not cold compress given, DVD put on, all calm.

Felt terrible leaving him, BUT could not communicate with him at all.

He was SO dramatic, and ott.
he is 6 btw.

Its a bit of a minefield, other peoples kids isnt it?!
so, was i?

FabBakerGirlIsBack Sun 26-Jul-09 20:47:57

Yes, tbh. I think you have to be extra nice to other peoples kids, especially when they have potentially hurt themselves.

I expect most other people will disagree with me.

GirlsAreLoud Sun 26-Jul-09 20:49:08

Agree with FBGIB, 6 is quite young and I would have been really worried that he was badly hurt.

LoveBeingAMummy Sun 26-Jul-09 20:49:47

FabBaker I agree with you

VelvetPlum Sun 26-Jul-09 20:51:46

I'm not the best at tolerating screeching or dramatics.
But I dont think I would have left him, he must have got a big fright and/or was in a fair bit of pain (marks or not).
I dont think you necessarily needed to be able to communicate with him, just comfort him for a little while til he calmed down, he's only 6.

monkeyfacegrace Sun 26-Jul-09 20:53:55

Everyone think logically, it was 2 minutes. 2 minutes is fine. If you had left him in a pool of blood for half hour diff story, but 2 mins? Thats hardly going to cause him damage and ud already tried comforting him.
And anyway, it was proved you were right cuz he stopped!

ForExample Sun 26-Jul-09 20:53:58

No, I agree with Bakergirl, also, I am even more careful with safety with other peoples kids, think you should have supervised the intial getting into the trampoline (zipping it up)

Aranea Sun 26-Jul-09 20:54:17

OMG I am really shocked that you let a visiting child go on the trampoline without supervising and then left him alone while he screamed in pain.

Sorry to be harsh but I am appalled.

What did his mother say?

FranSanDisco Sun 26-Jul-09 20:54:46

Well if he's OK now and no injuries present I would say yanbu. I worked in a pre-school for 3 yrs and some children need space when upset whilst others need cuddles. My ds who is also 6 yo goes off like an air raid siren when he hurts himself - a mix of shock and pain with a little drama added. Many a teacher has commented on it blush.

imaynotbeperfectbutimokmummy Sun 26-Jul-09 20:54:50

So let me get this right - a child visits your house, falls out of your trampoline (was he being supervised?) and obviously hurts himself - is hysterical even and you leave him crying in the conservatory?

I hope i don't know you because i wouldn't want my children coming to your house hmm

You should have rung his parents! I would be absolutely livid - he could have concussed himself FFS. Probably not, but even so.....

FabBakerGirlIsBack Sun 26-Jul-09 20:54:54

Golly. shocksmile

Maybe I am not so rubbish after all.

VelvetPlum Sun 26-Jul-09 20:55:25

lol@ everyone think logically! (sorry)

sunburntats Sun 26-Jul-09 20:55:44

I did comfort him but felt that i was making it much worse. I sat with him till i couldnt stand it any longer.

he is like my own, tbh, known him since he was 3 months old there abouts so have quite a close relationship with him.

curlyredhead Sun 26-Jul-09 20:56:09

I think it was fine to stop interacting with him but I would probably have stayed in the same room with him and said something similar to what you said.

FranSanDisco Sun 26-Jul-09 20:57:28

She'd done lots of checking, soothing etc. Maybe her questions were freaking him out. He stopped crying and came to her. Seems OK.

onepieceoflollipop Sun 26-Jul-09 20:57:57

This is unlikely, but he could have had a serious head/neck injury with No Marks

As someone else said I think it was irresponsible to leave dcs (at least one only 6 years old) unsupervised on a trampoline knowing it was likely to remain unzipped.

I think you have had a lucky escape.

FabBakerGirlIsBack Sun 26-Jul-09 20:59:48

Please tell me you told his mum he fell.

sunburntats Sun 26-Jul-09 21:00:51

I was in the kitchen, could see him through the open patio doors.
Didnt close patio doors, pulled it to.

He was screaming, then stopped quite quickly and came to me.
We had more cuddles and he said he was fine.
Told his mum, she said that when he is tired he is OTT. She also said that you cant talk to him either when he is like that. Best to let him come she reckns i did the right thing.
Bless him.

tulip27 Sun 26-Jul-09 21:02:36

OMG I think you have had a lucky escape, concussion and fractures don't always leave an immediate mark. If you had done this to my child we would no longer be friends.

sunburntats Sun 26-Jul-09 21:04:06


No serious injury, i am medically trained so a bit of an assesment there.
I was making him worse, so stepped out of the room...inot the next room with clear patio doors.....not closed..

VelvetPlum Sun 26-Jul-09 21:05:08

See, this is what I'll never understand about aibu, you feel you dealt with it fine, the mum felt you dealt with it fine, the outcome was absolutely ok.
So why the AIBU thread?? grin

And I really dont mean that sarkily, but really why did you think to do aibu thread about it?

Aranea Sun 26-Jul-09 21:05:44

If you had been supervising them, the trampoline would have been zipped up, no?

sunburntats Sun 26-Jul-09 21:06:36

seriously, you would fall out with me over this?

Well, his mum would be very stuck for lots of childcare this summer if she took the same veiw becuase he is coming to play allot!

sunburntats Sun 26-Jul-09 21:08:59

Yes, normally they do, its a given that if they go on it, 2 at a time, and zipped up. It was within a second of them getting onto it...was just about to shout.."zip" when crash.
Landed on grass (that is quite long cos it wont stop raining so cant get to cut the bugger)

Wanted to put it on WWYD but couldnt find it.

imaynotbeperfectbutimokmummy Sun 26-Jul-09 21:10:27

Agree with velvet plum. Are you a nurse or doctor? Paramedic? You were right to step back but you should have called his mother!

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