My xp has never really accepted that we are no longer a couple. He thinks that eventually I will see that we are made to be together etc etc. I left him because he is controlling and emotionally abusive. DS is nearly 3, and sees xp overnight once a week, plus xp and I go out for the day with ds one day at weekend, and he comes over for a meal one evening a week (so in effect he sees ds every other day).
Xp owns a house in France and wants me and ds to go there with him for 2 weeks. He says that ds will love the pool and have a beach holiday. I don't want to go, because I don't want to play happy families when we aren't one. XP won't take ds on his own, he wants us to have a "family holiday" (and in any case he wouldn't be able to get drunk and smoke dope every night if in sole charge of ds).
I find this really hard. He is piling on the pressure, emotional of course, and I can see myself giving in for a quiet life, as I so often did in our relationship. I have tried saying that I don't want to play happy families but he insists we ARE a family.
I know this isn't strictly AIBU but I feel the need for straight talking.
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tvaerialmagpiebin · 24/07/2009 21:35
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