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FabBakerGirlIsBack Fri 24-Jul-09 08:15:58

I rarely get breakfast.

I have bought some cereal and I don't want DS1 to have it. Normally they do end up having what I have bought for DH and/or me but they have a cupboard full of their choices and I never refuse them food. They are well fed. I just want this cereal for me.

DS1 said if he can't have it will starve himself until he is sick. hmm

Am I being U to say no for once?

<Disclaimer - I do have food issues with not being fed as a child and don't ever want my kids to be hungry and not be able to eat.>

I will buy more of this particular cereal but until I next go shopping, it is all I can currently eat in the mornings.

So, AIBU or just stupid?

Mutt Fri 24-Jul-09 08:17:24

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liahgen Fri 24-Jul-09 08:18:37

well he probably won't really srarve himself will he?

I completely understand though, dd3 (2) refuse her own breakfast then If I have the audacity to get a bowl for myself, it's "dd3 have some" and a little face, of course we share, I get very little.

I feel your pain, it won't kill him if you say no. hard though.

Thunderduck Fri 24-Jul-09 08:19:38


Thunderduck Fri 24-Jul-09 08:21:09

Which cereal is it if I may ask?

FabBakerGirlIsBack Fri 24-Jul-09 08:21:58

Thank you.

With my issues I do find it hard to know what to do sometimes as it is hard to separate my feelings from them in the here and now.

Have to go. DS1 has just shut DS2's fingers in the door having already made him cry 2 minute ago.

What do I do with this child who has been rude and insolent since the minute he got up?

girlsyearapart Fri 24-Jul-09 08:22:36

yanbu they can't have everything they want the whole time. What if he wanted a glass of wine next time??smile
Is it diet cereal fabbg??

liahgen Fri 24-Jul-09 08:23:32

a day out of doors aLways works for us if kids are being whingy, Noone feels like it when it's suggested but once they've been out if fresh air for couple hours, everyone feels better, just park or on bikes or something.

Hope your day gets better,

FabBakerGirlIsBack Fri 24-Jul-09 08:24:06

It is crunchy bran I think.

DS1 now on the step throwing things.

Week one and I have had enough of DS1. I have enough on with worrying about Dh without a child I can't seem to control.

FabBakerGirlIsBack Fri 24-Jul-09 08:25:24

DS1 never wants to go out unless it is on his terms.

I have errands to do and then we are going to the park. Thanks liaghan, for the idea.

FabBakerGirlIsBack Fri 24-Jul-09 08:27:32

I nearly fainted when he came down and started doing writing practice. All became apparent when he asked for some mango liquorice. I said not at this time in the morning, maybe when we got back from the errands. So he said he was only doing his writing to get the sweet so there was no point doing it. Tears in his eyes too but I think they were anger, not genuine upset.

He is only 8. God help me when he is 15 and bigger than me.

duchesse Fri 24-Jul-09 08:37:32

He won't be sick if he is starving himself- there'll be nothing to come up. Be firm, stand your ground.

It drives me effing nuts to be running around all morning like a blue arsed fly making sure the children are all organised, only to find that the little bastards darlings have eaten up the only things I can eat for breakfast. I have a fair number of dietary intolerances so I don't think I'm being unreasonable to expect them to leave me something I can eat rather than deliberately scoffing it all.

Be firm, stand your ground- you're in charge here, he's being a pain.

duchesse Fri 24-Jul-09 08:38:38

"What do I do with this child who has been rude and insolent since the minute he got up?"

Send him back to bed, on the grounds that he must be tired if he can't behave himself properly.

blowbroth Fri 24-Jul-09 08:40:51

May I suggest you switch the computer off and play with him. Sorry to be so harsh.

Mutt Fri 24-Jul-09 08:41:27

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cancantcan Fri 24-Jul-09 08:46:02

"DS1 never wants to go out unless it is on his terms"

I have that model too. Very annoying when you just want to have a nice day. I tried pandering to him but that just made him more unreasonable. I did find a fab solution which really works for us - whomever is going on the outing all sit down, everyone puts forward an idea about where/what they want to do, then take votes, majority choice on where you go, and everyone chooses one thing they really want to do and does it. Gives them the idea of democracy and fairness from very early on, and made DS see that he was being selfish and unfair to the rest of us by sulking and kicking off when it didnt go his way. He still tries it on every now and again, but caves in quickly when he doesnt get his own way.
Re the cereal, tell them it has --something green and nasty-- broccoli in it, thats usually enough to put most kids off grin

MamaLazarou Fri 24-Jul-09 08:48:23

Tell him you've put bogies in it.

Mutt Fri 24-Jul-09 08:49:29

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TwoHot Fri 24-Jul-09 09:21:08

Tell him its 'healthy' and he must eat it every day. That should do the trick!

FluffyBunnyGoneBad Fri 24-Jul-09 09:24:05

I too would send him back to bed. Tell him it's made of sprouts, that will shut him up.

FabBakerGirlIsBack Fri 24-Jul-09 09:35:01

We are back.

We didn't make the park as it was tipping it down.

DS1 has now eating his breakfast, has given me a keyring say I love Mum on it and seems to have calmed down.

just asked him if he wants me to play with him and he looked at me in shock. Has gone to do his teeth and is looking for a game we can play.

He likes broccoli and this is the child who chooses sprouts over roast potatoes so not something that would work here! grin

blowbroth Fri 24-Jul-09 11:48:10

Brilliant. Hope it goes well and doesn't end up with a mighty bust up grin.

FabBakerGirlIsBack Fri 24-Jul-09 11:50:19

We had fun playing bounce the ball in the kitchen.

Have baked with 2 of the three kids.

DS1 has just fallen and banged his head.

Both boys are arguing with me.

I am upset as it is an anniversary today and feeling too tired to cope.

DD is screaming now.

LuluMaman Fri 24-Jul-09 11:58:12

all the stuff you describe re your children is normal childhood behaviours, honestly smile you are doing a great job, the fact you care so much about doing the right thing is part of that.

FabBakerGirlIsBack Fri 24-Jul-09 12:09:23

It would be nice if just once they didn't argue back with me or be rude.

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