Sorry long rant warning.
OK, so 2 weeks ago our 2 ds entered the must-feared, much-malagned German school system.
One thing I have learnt is that to do well, you really need to know the system. We are brand new to it, we don't know it. Ds1 is about to enter a notoriously difficult and crucial year, where the pupils have to do well the whole year to get into grammar school. For foreigners it's especially difficult.
Last night there was a parent's evening specifically to explain the bavarian school system to all parents whose children are about to start this difficult year. I told dh I wanted him to go, as his German is miles better than mine. Normally all school stuff gets passed to me.
Anyway, he moaned so so so much, but agreed to do it. Made a huge drama at leaving work early (after 7pm) for the 7.30 parent's evening. He goes (much moaning) only to return 15 minutes later.
wtf??
So it turns out the location had changed. Several other parents hadn't known, so many were outside the school till they found out (no note on the school doors or anything) so the other parents piled into various cars and went to the new location (in neighbouring village) He was also offered a lift but he refused - no way was he going to all that trouble, getting in a car with people he didn't know and be dependent on a lift back.
I am really seriously fucked off with him. He made such a fuss about the trouble of going, then didn't even bother going. It was probably really important information we really needed to know. And we look like slack parents who don't even bother to turn up to parent's evenings.
To add to my annoyance, we got an email a few days ago, subject being swine flu. I couldn't fully understand it, so forwarded it to dh, he half read it and said it was about swine flu (which it started off being, but later mentioned the venue change)
So, the obvious solution is I just don't ask him to help with his kids' education anymore in typical man stylee to get woman to do all the work. But he speaks better german, and why shouldn't he do something? So how do I cope with future events? Knowing at the 1st hiccup he'll give up and not bother?
I am so pissed off and frustrated.
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to want to scream in frustration at dh re parents' evening. Appreciate strategy suggestions for the next time. If there ever is one...
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ErnestTheBavarian · 17/07/2009 14:20
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