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To think that a reference to your "DH" is a bit rich...

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skihorse Fri 17-Jul-09 12:12:35

when you're in Relationships moaning about the fact he's physically/mentally/emotionally abusive, an alcoholic/drug-addict/gambler a cheat/pervert/gay and asking for advice on how to cope/leave him?

Really, is he really and truly your "Dear/Darling Husband/Partner"? Really?

I find it quite astonishing that there are so many women in so many seemingly inappropriate adult relationships who refer to their abuser as DEAR.

rubyslippers Fri 17-Jul-09 12:13:30

i don't think it's a bit rich

i think people use it almost reflexively

pollywobbledoodle Fri 17-Jul-09 12:14:15

plenty of words that begin with d.....

belgo Fri 17-Jul-09 12:14:30

I think they use it without thinking about what the D means.

DebiNewberry Fri 17-Jul-09 12:14:51

it has come not to mean dear though. dh, to me just means h.

it is just a signifier.

if op was to put h it would be understandable but slow the flow of reading as it is not what is expected.

Alambil Fri 17-Jul-09 12:14:56

it's just the acronym - people might wonder what a random h in a sentence meant

and also, even when you're being abused, you still may love the person

Morloth Fri 17-Jul-09 12:15:31

Damned starts with a D as well, Dickhead, Dumbarse, Dumb, Dippy, Deranged, Dopey etc. I tend to read nice posts as Dear Husband and not so nice ones as Damned Husband.

jumpingbeans Fri 17-Jul-09 12:15:49

They mean dh = dick head

TrinityRhinoHasASillyStepson Fri 17-Jul-09 12:17:34

I read 'dh' to mean husband

I know the d means darling but it just has become an easier way to type husband

jeminthepark Fri 17-Jul-09 12:18:14

grin at jumpingbeans

MamaLazarou Fri 17-Jul-09 12:18:47


It's just a shorthand term for husband.

Waspie Fri 17-Jul-09 13:39:16

I personally think the whole "D" prefix to be a ridiculous affectation.

Of course my son is the most precious thing in the world to me but I don't see why I need to refer to him as "dear son" in a chat room! It sounds as though I'm writing him a letter.

MrsMcCluskey Fri 17-Jul-09 13:41:36

if yo dont like it dont use it.
Easy as

frumpygrumpy Fri 17-Jul-09 13:44:16

are we having this conversation? grin

Its a term.............

good afternoon everyone grin

OrmIrian Fri 17-Jul-09 13:44:56

Could be 'dickhead'. Or dastardly. Or deadly. Dangerous. Drug-addicted. Dismal. Oh this is fun....

However it is possible to still think of someone as 'dear' even if they are causing you grief. If it wasn't DS#2 would rarely by DS hmm

TwoJobsOneManOneBump Fri 17-Jul-09 13:47:49

Dratted, Delinquent, DeadIfICouldGetAwayWithIt, Doggone, Doofus...

BitOfFun Fri 17-Jul-09 14:00:26


skihorse Fri 17-Jul-09 16:06:19

I am very much enjoying your alternatives! grin

MitchyInge Fri 17-Jul-09 16:09:14


I have never got to grips with the D anything - children, brother, husband

MaggieBeBold Fri 17-Jul-09 16:11:10

I hear you. I say xp. WHen I was with him I never refered to him as dear, not even as shorthand on a forum.

MaggieBeBold Fri 17-Jul-09 16:12:49

Departed!? like that one. I departed him.

MaggieBeBold Fri 17-Jul-09 16:14:05

I'm terrified that I will refer to somebody in real life as my SIL. Or something equally geekish.

TrillianAstra Fri 17-Jul-09 16:19:41

YABU, it just means husband.

junglist1 Fri 17-Jul-09 18:36:12

I agree bollocks to the D. Mine is either P or on a bad day "my twat"

skihorse Fri 17-Jul-09 18:41:26

No, it does not mean husband, that would simply be "H".

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