in sending xp this message?

[chim000]

I've been having a good day mouse hunting & I get a msg from him on fb that has fucked me off beyond belief.

I messaged him asking what time I should drop the boys off to him this weekend & telling him that they have a party Sun pm so telling him what time I need to pick them up. He messaged me back telling me the time & asking me to take his ps2 round.

We've been split up for 2 years & suddenly he wants the ps2 back. He didn;t want it when we split up cos he had money to buy a ps3, x-box 360 & wii, but now he's run out of money & has had to sell all the other consoles to pay for his drugs & drink, so now wants that back.

So I replied with this message...

"in that case please can I have my plates and cutlery back and my £13,000 that I'm in debt cos of your drinking & drug taking & can my parents have their money back for the part of the house that they gave you. And while we're at it can I have the money for looking after you and ferrying you to and from hospital when you had the accident. Thanks"

Maybe I am, but FFS!

[Tamarto]

Just say no.

[chim000]

Just as I hit post, I realised why he's done it. We had a joint a/c that I managed to get to zero balance soon after we split. I asked him to sign the paperwork to get my name taken off the account/close it down, whatever was his preference, instead he beat me up (yes, Police were involved). He then trqansferred £1000 out of the account to his new account (we had a £1000 o/d) but never paid anything into it, so it is now heavily overdrawn because of interest. The bank keep phoning me asking me to pay it off, I explain the situation, they get me to pay a little bit in & leave me alone for a bit saying they'll get in touch with him. Yesterday I had a phonecall again asking for money as they can see I have a fair bit (my current account is well in credit, but will have that much in bills coming out over the next few weeks) again explained the situation, told them to check where the money had gone & eventually agreed to pay a small amount. I foud out that they have no contact details for twathead so gave them his address & phone numbers, obviously they've been in touch with him asking for the money, so he's now being a dick.

[FenellaFudge]

What a twat.
Just give him the damn thing if it's so important to him. But I can totally see why you'd be annoyed.

[HolyGuacamole]

Tell him you sold it towards his debt. Loser.

Easy to say but don't let him get to you.

[flowerybeanbag]

Well he sounds like a bit of a nightmare all round but on the face of it if you've got his PS2 and he wants it I can't see any problem with him asking you for it tbh.

Similarly, if he owes you/your parents money and has things of yours that you want back, you can ask him for them. I don't think holding his PS2 to ransom is going to get you your stuff any quicker assuming you are already taking appropriate action to recover it.

My sympathies though, he does sound horrendous.

[chim000]

Why do I have to be the one that's being civil all the time though? I want him to realise what the fuck he's putting me through. Hell I'd like him to realise what the hell he put me through for 10 fucking years.

[chim000]

The thing is I dont want the ps2, I don't even use it, not sure why it's still here tbh (actually it's because I don't have a dvd player). He's upset me so fucking much just by asking for a shitty fucking piece of shit baqck.

[Tamarto]

Sending that isn't going to make him realise what he's done though is it.

Two wrongs don't make a right.

[chim000]

I'm sorry, I just need to scream & shout.

[HolyGuacamole]

I know, I know.....but.....you are the better person and always will be.

He doesn't seem like he will ever realise why you have no tolerance for him, he will never 'get' it. You know he is a loser and by the sounds of it, you have made a life for yourself without him, good for you. You've moved on whereas he is still repeating the same old patterns it seems.

Get all your rage out on here and leave him to stew in his own mess.

[chim000]

He didn't want it 2 years ago, so he should stick to that. I know I'm being as pathetic as he is by saying he can't have it, but he gets off scot fucking free for his shit behaviour while his children are suffering

[HolyGuacamole]

Yep, Shiney knows! Not what you wanna hear but you know it makes sense.

[BunnyLebowski]

Aw chim that's shocking - what a c*nt.

Give it back to him. Be the bigger person and just get on with your own life and being the best parent you can be to you kids. You deserve much better than that loser.

Oh and I know it was a very serious post but you made me laugh my ass off with "mouse hunting"

[chim000]

He's only on my fb so that I can send him emails about the boys. I don't want him phoning me or texting me (unless of course it's urgent when the boys are with him). He won't respond to normal emails, and this is the best way that I have found to keep the contact as minimal as I want it. Since he's been on my fb he has accepted that I want all contact kept to email and he is sticking to it. I have to contact him every other weekend to find out what time he wants the boys & then I have to contact him on the sat evening to find out what time I am picking them up on the Sunday as he refuses to stick to set times. That of course would make my life easy, and he can't have that. I had to tell him about the party as recently he has been having the boys a bit later on the sunday so I needed to let him know what time i would be collecting them on the sunday. This is the only contact I ever have with him.

[chim000]

dittany - can't take my name off unless its in credit or at a zero balance. It was at a zero balance just after we split but I needed his signature which he refused to do, so I'm stuck until it's at a zero balance.

[chim000]

Right, thank you ladies, have calmed down somewhat.

Decision made, I'll just put it in the bag with the boys clothes (they have to have seperate bags otherwise ds2 ends up wearing clothes that are hanging off him & ds1 is wearing ankle swinging trousers & bodyfit t shirt - seriously!) and be done with. I'd better add the 13p for a new fuse as well hadn't I? (I had to use it for something else) Or is that being silly?

[Fruitysunshine]

Give it to him. You will only protract the "war" and nobody will ever benefit from that. Look at it as one less thing of him in your home. Gt a new DVD player (freecycle should be able to help) and know that you don't have to depend on him for anything AND you have still regained your classy attitude.

It is nasty. I know from personal experience but you will never ever get a feeling of satisfaction from anything you do to get back at him because it is probably not in your nature. The day I let go of my ex completely was the day I started living my life again.

You have to deal with this yourself inside if you are ever going to move on - even with the children to look after. Emailing is far too open a communication. We keep things to short texts and ONLY ever about the children. Anything else just gets ignored.

Good luck.

[chim000]

Oh, and Bunny, seriously, I'm being quite brave, I'm wearing a skirt & ballet shoes, I'm surprised I'm not in a head to toe protective suit with the heaviest boots I could find! I have wire wool coming out of every crevice that even a fucking ant couldn't get out of, yet still the fuckers are taunting me. God knows how, so now I've had enough and am gaffer taping the whole bloody house!

I swear when I'm filling in holes & putting poison down there must be a little group of them sat behind me laughing at me enjoying the show. Argh!!

Can you tell they're driving me nuts!

[JuJusDad]

Very important banking thing - please please please say that the old joint account and your new sole account are with different banks.

Increasingly, banks are clearing people's debts by sweeping money from their savings / current account (if in credit), and then leaving them screwed when it comes to bills, direct debits, etc.