Dp works 5 days a week and i work 3 days per week and study 1 day, well i did but it is the summer holidays and i have just started maternity leave.
Got a text the other day at 3pm from mil saying she is coming over, but i was out visiting my own sick granny and had made plans to meet my mum and go swimming, so i replied saying i wasn't in but dp would be home at 6pm. She asked whether i would be back by six with ds and i said around six yes.
Note my pil have never really visited us, it is a new thing after us suggesting they visit because ds 18 mo didn't know them well.
I cancel the swimming with my mum so i could be home in time so ds could see them for a bit before bed time. I was minding my 3 year old niece also so she was with me too.
They were there when i arrived, so i got to making the teas and coffees as requested, leaving the two dcs in the sitting room with PIL. In that time, the kids managed to knock a large photo off the wall with a ball and smash it, by the time i came from the kitchen none of the ILs had moved, or moved the dcs, or said anything about the smashed photo, leaving me to sort them out and do the tea. Dp came home while it was going on thankfully and suggested we sit outside as it was nice. Ds needed his nappy changing first so dp went to do that and mil piped up, "you've been working all day and you come home and are having to change nappies too"
I was raging, she had hardly uttered a word before that, and said,
"What do you think i haven't changed a nappy today?"
Or done anything else for that matter? (didn't say that though lol) But dp just gave me a look.
Now i know i am on maternity leave, but i did work three days a week and i do 90% of the house work. Dp doesn't ever do ironing, washing, sweeping, mopping, hoovering, changing bed clothes, dusting, dishes ect. He does pick up toys and make dinner though, but i don't mind, that is the way things are.
Yesterday she sat and had a conversation with a lady at a birthday party ds was invited to about ds and the birthday boy being so different considering there are only 6 months between them(ds is 18mo, boy is 2), ds can only say a handful of words, and hasn't been introduced to a potty yet. I was embarrassed and angry, we were in a room full of kids and she referred to my ds as the 'bottom of the pecking order' What the heck does that mean? Again DP tells me just to leave it. I wouldn't leave it if it was my own mum though.
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AIBU?
To expect dp to stand up for me and ds?
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PrammyMammy · 15/07/2009 18:30
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