to want to lose weight?

[crazylizzy]

I gained weight hugely with DC1 during pregnancy, almost 5.5 stone, didn't really lose it, then DC2 came along, have lost a good 2 stone the last 6 months, and am now a size 12-14.

However, I still have a hideously large post-baby belly which bulges out when I stand naturally and takes all my might as a human being to suck it in for photos Honestly, I look about 5 months pregnant and it hangs down over my belt line, it's that bad.

I am cracking on with the weight loss to shed a few more, to hopefully reduce the size of my belly and if the added bonus of a smaller ass happens along the way, then great

When I am offered chocolate cake etc I always politely decline but most people carry on with "oh go on, why not?", so I tell them I'm slimming to which I always get negative feedback, frowned upon and usually have a tongue in cheek remark regarding my weight loss/body/figure etc. I find it really awkward and uncomfortable.

AIBU to want to loose weight in peace?!

[HecatesTwopenceworth]

nope. But it's weird how many people seem to want to sabotage weight loss.

My mother is a bugger for it! Always wants you to have choc and biscuits etc the moment she knows you are trying to resist. It's like a challenge for her!

Re your belly - you might find, if it is post-baby sag, that exercise would be what you need, to firm up the muscles. Something like sit ups etc.

[Issy2008]

No, I get this too. I'm not massively fat (12) butI am for me, if you see what I mean. I'm happier when I'm slimmer but I feel like I have to pretend I'm not on a diet!

[Morloth]

People are weird about other people losing fat.

I used to find it easier to not say anything. In any case I would probably have a small slice of a good chocolate cake or simply say that I didn't feel like it.

You just need to stop engaging with people about it, they don't do it on purpose but they will try to sabotage you into staying the same.

[crazylizzy]

Thanks for the sit up tips HT, I will try some this week.

Issy, I know! I sometimes find myself denying it to people that I'm on a diet! Ridiculous isn't it?!