Our children are doing clubs next week. One is 12yo and is having to travel about 30 minutes on the bus to ge there. The other is being driven there as he is 8 yo and dosen't go on buses by himself yet.
Both have to be there at 10.00 am both on opposite sides of town and me starting work at 10.15. I don't mind walking to work, whilst he uses the car to take themit's within walking distance and suggested that he drops DS1 off around 20 minutes earlier so he can run the other one to his club for 10.00am He said 'no, DS 1 can get the bus' Now i'm a bit about DS 1 getting the bus into a particulary rough area by himself. I'd rather drop them off myself and be late for work.
This insued in a massive row this morning saying that DS1 gets the bus into town by himself and it's only an extra 10 minutes on the same bus.
It's not that, it's a bit of a rough area and told him that if I took him he wouldn't be having the car that day as i'd have to travel at the speed of light to get to work after dropping them off.
Why can't he just get it through his ignorant skull that I don't want my 12yo going by himself on a bus in an area he is not familiar with that's dodgy.
YANBU - your DH should be thinking of the safety of the children. I would do it myself and be late for work (on the first day)if not sorted by then. Hopefully then he will feel guilty enough to do it for the rest of the week.
Is not rough like some inner city boroughs but i've lived where I am all my life and i've never felt safe about that particular area even as a young carefree teen. He has no phone credit he uses it as quick as it's loaded on so we don't put credit on there until he can use it responsibly. I could put some on for him on this occasion. I'm one of these parents that phone him constantly though.
Do it seem reasonable though to let a 12 yo travel 30 minutes on a bbus by himself? I know I did but i'm sure it wasn't as dangerous as it is now
DH won't take him Lewis, he says 'why should I , it's 1 bus, don't be such a fucking idiot' . Then goes on to rant about why I let him walk the streets where we live if it's that dangerous (I didn't say OUR area was dangerous he knows I never he's being a prick) .
What do you mean by colourful? Is the club in this area or does he just have to go through? Honestly - what is likely to happen to him? I think you are worrying a bit for nothing - but then I don't like your DP's attitude either.
OrmIrain - DP says he will travel on the bus with him a couple of days before the event to show him where he needs to get off. He thinks i'm being a 'snob' about it all and it's rough everywhere'at that age I was going to London by myself' (i'm sure he was but I don't want my son doing this).
By saying colourful I mean a bit lively a bit somewhere I would rather he didn't find himself by himself. At the venue will be fine i'm sure i'm just worried he'll be singled out on the bus on the way I'd just assumed that DP ould take him seeing as he is off that day , has the car and nothing much else planned.
FabBakerGirl, he is going because the actual activity he is doing he rather enjoys (golf) it's something to keep him occupied during the school holidays for one of the very many weeks he has off and I'd rather the children did something rather than kicking about the streets bored. I work 2 full days and DP works the rest of the week so I don't want them at home constantly whining they are bored. I'd rather they were doing something constructive and worthwhile, It's free and there's only so much picnicing/going to the forest/arts and crafts/cinema that children can take (it's a little harder to occupy a 12 year old, he dosen't want to do arts and crafts, picnics, park etc.