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to hate the term 'inappropriate'

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katiestar Mon 13-Jul-09 15:11:50

Things never used to be inapprorite -they were either right or wrong .Where has inappropriate sprung up from ?

makipuppy Mon 13-Jul-09 15:13:09

I quite agree Katiestar. Often thought this.

Greensleeves Mon 13-Jul-09 15:15:22

It is a chilling word, so cold and impersonal

it reminds me of miserable years of bad school reports [shudder]

but I will confess to using it on MN when I want to pack a bit of a punch grin

monkeyfeathers Mon 13-Jul-09 15:22:34

I don't see what the problem is. 'Inappropriate' doesn't mean the same thing as 'wrong'. It means that something is unsuitable or improper for a particular set of circumstances. 'Wrong' just means that something is incorrect or untrue.

Greensleeves Mon 13-Jul-09 15:24:24

it's "inappropriate behaviour" that chills me

I was asked ina job interview what I would do if a child "began to behave inappropriately"

yuck yuck

pointydog Mon 13-Jul-09 15:25:10

I don't see the problem with 'inappropriate'. Things aren't always right or wrong.

katiestar Mon 13-Jul-09 15:26:57

Along with 'unacceptable' .Now I know where THAT one came from (although pronounced unaSSeptable)

VietnameseCobbler Mon 13-Jul-09 15:28:36

yes its rather snooty

Itsjustafleshwound Mon 13-Jul-09 15:29:02

Agree with monkeyfeathers ...

RenagadeMum Mon 13-Jul-09 15:29:40

Inappropriate is blah.

So is 'having issues' instead of problems.

And something being 'challenging' instead of a big old problem.
ie 'We are tackling the challenging issues of Iraq head on.'

Oh, and 'going forward' being used in a sentance makes me want to headbut something. I have issues with it! grin

bigstripeytiger Mon 13-Jul-09 15:30:12

I have no problem with 'inappropriate' or 'unacceptable' used in the correct context.

saintlydamemrsturnip Mon 13-Jul-09 15:30:19

i think inappropriate can be useful. Ds1 often behaves inappropriately. I can't call it wrong, as he doesn't understand so from his point of view his behaviour is fine- but it is certainly often completely inappropriate.

VietnameseCobbler Mon 13-Jul-09 15:30:39

in approriate means wrong though
if i snogged my boss it woudl be wrong

HerBeatitudeLittleBella Mon 13-Jul-09 15:32:15

It's often just used inappropriately though - interchangeably with "unseemly". (And unseemly is so much nicer. grin

GibbonInARibbon Mon 13-Jul-09 15:32:15

I am guessing you were told you did something 'inappropriate' wink

Itsjustafleshwound Mon 13-Jul-09 15:32:50

right or wrong is a judgement - appropriateness questions the circumstances.

makipuppy Mon 13-Jul-09 15:38:53

well, it questions the right or wrongness of something in relation to the circumstances. I think it's a rather lazy term because people don't want to apportion blame or say what they really think.

VietnameseCobbler Mon 13-Jul-09 15:39:37

it would be so wrong to snog him

TheProfiteroleThief Mon 13-Jul-09 15:42:01

I think inappropriate is valuable term.


If boss puts his hand up my skirt - wrong
If DH puts his hand up my skirt in front of dds - inappropriate
If DH puts his hand up my skirt when we are alone - that might well be fine wink

monkeyfeathers Mon 13-Jul-09 15:42:25

Vietnamese Cobbler: snogging your boss would only be wrong because of the circumstances (i.e. that he is your boss/it's against company policy/it would make working together difficult/he's in a relationship with someone else/etc). Snogging that particular man isn't absolutely or inherently 'wrong', it's 'inappropriate' because of the context.

makipuppy Mon 13-Jul-09 15:43:41

Saintly, but if he doesn't understand right and wrong, which is quite understandable of course, how will he understand inappropriate! Pure semantics.

cobbler, what have you done?

RenagadeMum Mon 13-Jul-09 15:44:41

What does your boss look like VC?

That may help me to know how to judge the situation as being inappropriate.

pointydog Mon 13-Jul-09 15:45:56

It is a word that is overused by public sector departments and if a word is overused it loses its meaning to some extent and people turn against it.

It doesn't sound as potentially accusatory as right or wrong, hence it being adopted by piblic sector.

HerBeatitudeLittleBella Mon 13-Jul-09 15:49:05

If your boss looks like this then it's appropriate.

If he looks like this then it's inappropriate.

saintlydamemrsturnip Mon 13-Jul-09 15:49:21

maki- he has severe learning disabilities, I use inappropriate to describe his behaviour to others (or myself) not for him. - eg sniffing someone's arse - of my other children do it they have enough social understanding to understand that it is wrong/going to offend etc etc. When ds1 does it (which he does a lot at times) he is simply exploring his world and building up a picture of somewhere - the behaviour is however unacceptable in polite society and therefore inappropriate. I wouldn't call it naughty though, because he's not doing it with any understanding at all that it is unacceptable.

I would use inappropriate for all sorts of his behaviours (dropping trousers in public/hitting his head/hitting me when excited etc etc). I only use wrong when he understands that he is doing something he shouldn't be doing.

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