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friends visit knowing they have swine flu

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two2many Sun 12-Jul-09 18:48:02

AIBU to be p#### off with a fairly new friend visiting us today knowing she has been sick all week with swine flu , i have other health problems & my ds has asthma , she knows about our health problems ,

WynkenBlynkenandNod Sun 12-Jul-09 18:51:14

YANBU, I'd be hugely cross and would make sure she knows it, highly irresponsible in the circumstances.

Lulumama Sun 12-Jul-09 18:52:47

she should have given you the choice to say yes or not to their visit, and told you they had swine flue. especially as you have underlying problems

was she diagnosed with it? definitely swine flu?

insertwittynicknameHERE Sun 12-Jul-09 18:55:15

Did she call before she came to see if it was convenient? If so then you could have told her not to come, and if she didn't then she is being highly unreasonable to visit.

nickytwotimes Sun 12-Jul-09 18:56:33

Totally thoughtless.

two2many Sun 12-Jul-09 18:58:04

thanks wykenblynkenandnod , im worried sick now as they were here for 5 hours angry
her dp was sneezing & coughing & must have taken his jumper off & on about 5 times hmm
i did ask them why were they not staying in until they were over it & they laughed & said it was ok because they were starting to feel a little better angry

Greensleeves Sun 12-Jul-09 18:58:06

Did she come in, sit down, accept a cuppa and THEN tell you she had swine flu? If so, then YANBU and shock at her

Or did you know beforehand/do you THINK she had swine flu? In which case you are Nana from Catherine Tate grin

sazlocks Sun 12-Jul-09 18:59:07

YANBU - how rude and thoughtless - unless she doesn't realise that you and your DS are at higher risk. I think some people are getting a bit blase about it now but as you suggest some groups are definately at higher risk.

traceybath Sun 12-Jul-09 19:00:18

When did they tell you they had swine flu?

Afraid as soon as they told me i'd have said 'well you need to go then' and i'd have explained why.

And if they were droppers in - well honestly - i hate people who drop-in a the best of times smile

two2many Sun 12-Jul-09 19:03:02

hi , lulu she text asking if it was ok to pop over but never mentioned she was sick ,
& yes she was definitely diagnosed with it
wondering now how long will it take for symptoms to show up if we have caught it sad
god i hope the dc's dont get it

Greensleeves Sun 12-Jul-09 19:04:22

that is unforgiveable in that case shock

How selfish!

I hope your dc don't get it. We've just had it and although not life-threatening it is very nasty.

JodieO Sun 12-Jul-09 19:06:09

That's awful. I read today about the first case in Britain of someone dying from swine flu that didn't have underlying health problems too.

foxinsocks Sun 12-Jul-09 19:09:11

you might not get it (and I hope you don't)

we had some maintenance people in at work, I went in early to let them in, shook the blokes hand every day, spoke to him and he was in for about a week (and it turned out he had swine flu!) and I didn't get it . So maybe you won't.

But yes, that is piss poor tbh.

OrangeFish Sun 12-Jul-09 19:09:37

I understand you are furious (I would be)

What I don't understand is why people who are infected are reassured once and again that there is no need to lock themselves in their own houses until they are ok angry

two2many Sun 12-Jul-09 19:10:19

ha greensleeves nana , no she text me said nothing , they all came over , i made tea etc & then commented that she looked a bit pale hmm that's when she told me , i reminded her of our health problems & she just grinned & said "AH I AM STARTING TO FEEL A BIT BETTER"
they went to the cinema this morning & when i looked shocked they laughed angry

Boys2mam Sun 12-Jul-09 19:12:16

My friend works for a very well known high street retail chain and her youngest DS was diagnosed with Swine Flu on Fri. She was told to sign a waiver that she had been "in contact with" someone with SF and is expected to turn up for every shift as normal hmm

Lulumama Sun 12-Jul-09 19:14:03

that's awful

maybe they thought that it was mild, better not to panic etc.. whihc i do agree with BUT stil should have offered you the choice to decline their visit, esp iwth an asmathic child

two2many Sun 12-Jul-09 19:25:59

no lulumama , she said she has never had a dose like it & for the 1ast 4 days she was bedridden sad today was her first day out & she was diagnosed 6 days ago .

FabBakerGirlIsBack Sun 12-Jul-09 19:26:36

What is the waiver for?

chevre Sun 12-Jul-09 19:28:29

yanbu - but hopefully they were no longer contagious.
i would have chucked them out. i hate folk sneezing all over me.

choufleur Sun 12-Jul-09 19:29:47

did she have a blood test to confirm it was swine flu. Doctors tbh seems to be listing people as having suspected swine flu if they have a number of symptoms.

Jajas Sun 12-Jul-09 19:30:27

God that's awful! I was diagnosed as having suspected piggy flu on Thursday and have been taking Tamiflu, told everyone that I was ill and quite happy for people to drop things off at the front door if they needed to. Cannot believe how selfish your friend has been and how irresponsible! I have asthma too so understand the concerns.

fishie Sun 12-Jul-09 19:38:12

is interesting how different behaviour and advice is. ds has had suspected swine flu, doc spoke to me on phone and no tamiflu as no other health prob.

fwiw two2 ds caught it from cm's asthmatic ds (they are both 4), they were both ill for a couple of days but not too bad. no adults have got it from them at all, so it does seem to be true re children being more susceptible.

Boys2mam Sun 12-Jul-09 21:00:24

FabBaker, tbh I didn't ask, I just assumed it was a kind of admission she'd be in contact with it. It means bugger all and she has 3 other kids too so to me its like a hothouse of lurgys in her house smile

LisaD1 Sun 12-Jul-09 21:16:17


My DD2 (20 months) has just been diagnosed with swine flu and is taking tamiflu. The rest of us have no symptoms so far and have been told to carry on as normal. We have all stayed in all day today and myself and 2 DD's will stay home until ALL symptoms have gone, hubby will go to work as usual unless he shows any signs of having it. People are just so selfish sometimes, I would be furious in your position.

Fingers crossed you don't get it.

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