to want that £6 pw?

[daisymaybe]

i work as a nanny for a lovely family with (mostly) charming children and know that i'm very lucky to have found such a position.

BUT

the matter of my missing £6 is starting to pain me. my pay is rounded down by £2pw. this was never mentioned, it just happened from the off and it didn't seem worth saying anything.

then the ballet rounds started, £1 each way once a week. another £2 pw.

then there is ice cream day. i know that i don't absolutely have to buy the kids ice creams but it seems very unfair if all of their friends have them of a friday and they don't. the parents know that ICD (ice cream day) happens weekly, and they have twice left money for it, but most weeks either forget or don't bother. so that's another £2pw.

up until now i haven't really thought about it. i'm saving in a big way so i tend to squirrel my pay packet away and not think about it. but recently, mum didn't have the right change (by £5) and said she'd "just take it off next week's pay"

now, my £6 really bothers me.

AIBU?

[juneybean]

Why are they rounding your pay down?

[Jaquelinehyde]

£312 a year would bother me. YANBU.

Ask about it, they probably don't even realise and will be a bit about it.

Every penny counts when you are saving.

[AppleandMosesMummy]

Ask to be paid by Bacs transfer or DD then there is no reason to not have the exact right amount each week.
As for ice cream and ballet, is there no kitty ? If not you need one, what if you have to buy medicine or something ?

[catwalker]

Poor you - it's awful to be put in a position where you have to ask for money. I've no idea why your pay should be rounded down by £2 - that doesn't make sense to me.

As for the ballet and ice cream, they might forget to keep topping up a kitty, or wonder if you're taking money out of it for other things. What about if you suggested to mum that you left a little notebook out somewhere and jotted down these little extras? She could then settle up with you every few weeks or on pay day, rather than you having to keep asking her for small amounts of money? You could say that you hate asking, of course, but point out that these small amounts add up and you're trying to save.

[daisymaybe]

I'm leaving soon so it's not TOO much of an issue (not because of my £6, I'm going to do teacher training). Just wanted to be sure i wasn't going barmy.

There's no kitty - i'm their first nanny and they're my first family, so we were all a bit clueless. I'll deffo suggest it for their next nanny though!

[zeke]

They are probably totally clueless.

I presume when you say your pay is 'rounded' down - you mean that paying for the ballet and ice-cream effectively means it is?

I would get a little notebook and make a note of the little extra expensives that you have incurred and ask them for the money.

[sweetfall]

bill them before you leave

[mumeeee]

Say you can't afford to pay for the ballet or icecreams if they don't give you the money to do it and then don't take the children.

[silverten]

If they can afford to pay a nanny, they can afford to pay for treats for their children.

You, on the other hand, are doing a job of work, for which you should be paid an agreed amount, and compensated for any work-related expenses. I think YANBU.

[xandrarama]

YANBU. It is the parents' responsibility to pay for these extras - not yours.

[TrillianoftheShineyCult]

YANBU. £6 is £6.

[PeachyTheRiverParrettHarlot]

YANBU

Do suggest to them- their next nanny might be like my sister and trust me, they won't get away with it again , my sister'd either not take them, refuse the ice creams or demand interest* on all pennies owed


*This is why my sister is considereably richer then me of course

[StealthPolarBear]

zeke - no I think she means she gets paid £152 (say, I have no idea how much nannys earn) and they leave her 7 £20s and a £10.
OP YANBU, as a one off if they had forgotten or you buy ice creams then fine, every time is not on. It's a pity you're leaving because this needs sorting!!

[daisymaybe]

Yep that's it - although not sadly quite those numbers...

I'm horribly english about money, can't bring myself to talk about it!

Thanks for the fab advice. I'll bring it up for the next one, and make sure she gets it all sorted from the off.

[BOFwithagallicshrug]

Have you been waiting long?

[Blondeshavemorefun]

yanbu at all - if you had posted this in the childcare section then sure fireworks would fly!!!

£6per week soon adds up

tbh i am not sure why you dont get paid weekly/monthly into bank account, rather then have cash each week, as much easier PLUS you would get the right amount each time

parents are not mind readers and as you havent said anything they have probably forgotten and dont think anything of it

there is no way i would this gone on for as long as you have - you need a kitty upfront, or as some of my friends do write things down for week and get paid that and petrol on friday

sure the next nanny will put them right, i disucc kitty and credit card at interviews and stay away from the familys who look unsure at giving me a credit card&then say, not sure if we would trust a nanny with a credit card

erm i have your child to look after - isnt that more precious and totally irreplaceable

[GrapefruitMoon]

Is your last post implying you get paid a lot less than £152 a week? Even £152 sounds very low to me...

[Blondeshavemorefun]

think she means, she gets paid an odd number a week, say earnt £84 a day times 3 so would be £252 a week but only gets 250