to want my marital bed back and a proper bedroom for my 4 year old daughter?

[energyhill]

I am so unbelievably pissed off with husband.
We live in a one bedroomed 1st floor flat and we moved out of the bedroom when my daughter was 6 months old, bought a sofa bed, moved it into the lounge on the expectation that we wouldn't be in the same position 3 and half years later!!! We are still on the damn sofa bed and despite MY efforts to get our house decorated, and spotless and on the market (since Sept 08)and eventually find a buyer, my stupid husband seems to be dragging his heels aboutus moving. He seems to think I'm selfish to want a family home! That I should be grateful for what I've got! HELP! I think I'm going crazy!Has anyone else had a husband who seems to think its perfectly normal to expect his wife to enjoy squeeky sofa bed sex and not care about wanting a bedroom of her own! There's no romance!!!!

[Tamarto]

Does it have anything to do with the costs involved?

[posiedullardparker]

The cheapest option is a new build, they are giving them away and will pay stamp duty, they may even buy your house from you.

Tell your DH to get in gear!

[clumsymum]

Blokes just get inertia about such things I think.

I come from a country location. We are currently living in a house on an estate in the suburbs (which I hate) which we bought as a stop-gap. "Yes Darling" he said, "we'll buy this one for now, but I promise 3 to 5 years max we'll move on"

We have been here now 11 1/2 years, I hate it, but can I get him to help with the idea of clearing out/decorating, even considering where we might move to.

[energyhill]

I don't think cost is involved, it used to be an issue when the house market was sky high, and now it's crashed we can move on, mind you, aren't HD's wallets always tight?
They are also lazy.
Trouble is there aren't any other properties left on the market that are suitable for us now - when we were waiting for a buyer there were loads we liked, now we have a buyer, they have all gone! TYPICAL!

As far as decorating is concerned my HD is good at wallpapering and abit of woodwork, when we re-fitted the kitchen it took him a year to finish!!! I don't mind doing painting, but I can't drill holes!!!
I tried once to drill a hole in the bedroom wall to fix a screw in place to I could hang up a picture...I ended up making such a bodge if it, I had to fill the hole with a bit of polyfilla, stick the screw in and wait until it had dried before hanging my picture up. Worked a treat!

I hate having to ask HD to get his tools out!!!

[KIMItheThreadSlayer]

Stop the sofa bed sex (and any other type) until you have a bedroom.

That should get him moving

[Trikken]

YANBU at all. Id be pissed too. definately stop the sofa sex.

we moved to a really run down place as dh said we could do it up and it'd be perfect. so sulkily agreed, two years on and we have done a few things but it is still a crap-hole and we have run out of money to do anything else. I probably feel worse about it at the mo as i really want to do our spare room (junk-room) up for when our dd is born.

[Blondeshavemorefun]

if you have a buyer, then accept offer and that will make dh pull his finger out of his then

either rent or get moving to esate agent