I don't see it as negative but never felt the need for one. I didn't want to imediately surround myself with YOUR BABY COULD DIE merchandise - but its a personal choice. Why would any one get kerflumpled about whether someone else has a stairgate or not? Especially to be so annoyed that you start another thread.....
<<pag contemplates going to look at the other thread>>
We had one and found it quite dangerous TBH. Our children used to climb over it. And toddlers on top of a stairgate at the top of a staircase was more dangerous than no stair gate. And by and large we discarded most of the safety paraphenalia by no 2 as we found it unneccessary. But I don't suppose anyone thinks it's a bad thing per se.
A friend's dd fell whilst climbing over one and broke her arm. My dd slipped on the stairs and hurt herself on the stairgate at the bottom. DS1 was very careful on the stairs themselves but used to charge at the stairgate at the top of the stairs - had the stairgate given way he would have gone crashing down the stairs. With ds3 we taught him how to crawl up and down the stairs safely and never had a stairgate because we felt the risks to the older children outweighed the benefits as he was never left unsupervised near the stairs anyway.
Same here pag. Having said that we did try all those 'oh my god I must make DC's life like a padded cell' things with DS#1. But as he was very adept at removing them, climbing over them, chewing them...we gave up. And all my DC are still in one piece.
The one child I didn't bother too much with stair gates was the one who fell down the stairs with two cricket bat sounding whacks... we had to call an ambulance, she didn't cry and she couldn't move her eyes which were fixed to the left, she just dribbled, it was the most scary day of my life.
My dss could climb up and down stairs before they could walk, which meant they didn't try to walk down!
Don't really know why anyone would object to a safety measure.... but people are strange.
god yes, no stairgates here and my kids are still alive no carseats either, or helmets on bicycles, or any other pesky safety things and of course the fact that my kids are all fine with no safety equipment must mean that its all completely uneccesary and anyone who uses them are PFB....
posie - but that is the point. No one objects. Some of us just manage without.
I can see why people choose the way they do but their choice is no more my business than my choice is theirs. There are no moral certainties here - we just try and balance our lives with bringing up our children as we see fit.
I've missed the other threads on this. We've got one at the bottom of the stairs as dd2 is learning to walk but is a really good climber already. We've decided to take it down as we keep tripping over it AND i'M TERRIFIED THAT IF ONE OF THEM DOES FALL DOWN THE STAIRS THEY'LL CRASH INTO IT AT THE BOTTOM. eACH TO THEIR OWN ON THIS ONE i THINK.
I have to go and get my DD from school now (so must pack up knives for her to play with on the way home).
I think people who buy stairgates are attentive parents doing the best for their children and are very sensible.They are neither PFB or OTT. But I retain the right to not think I need one and still be regarded as a loving sensible parent.
<<lobs final brick at littlelamb but takes time to smooth out those sharp edges>>
<<tries to leave with decorum but trips over carpet edge and crashes into untethered dog>>