to open the front door every time dh goes to the toilet?

[Greensleeves]

the computer I am sitting at is at the bottom of the stairs, right next to the front door

toilet is directly at the top of the stairs

dh comes in from work, plays with kids for a bit and I have a cheeky MN

then he goes to the loo and evil buzzing miasma steals down the stairs and up my nostrils

His POV: it makes him feel unwelcome in his own home and is a total overreaction and he has a middle-class aversion to having Doors Open anyway

My POV: He chomps on pasta, pizza and pasties knowing full well that he is gluten intolerant and it fucking stinks. And I see no reason why I shouldn't have the door open, if the neighbours really want to see me MNing they can come on over and I'll put the kettle on

red herring: I fart a fair bit and dh doesn't mind, I can't imagine why, it's revolting

so AIBU?

[moondog]

I would just refuse to have sex with him.
Does he have a sit as soon as he gets in from work?
How odd.

[HecatesTwopenceworth]

No. If it smells, it smells. If he doesn't want the door open tell him to stop eating the bloody gluten and he won't emit toxic fumes.

[PeedOffWithNits]

gluten intolerant? has he been tested for coeliac disease?

its really really important to get tested if you have probs with gluten as untreated you can develop osteoporosis or bowel cancer

and in answer to your OP, no, YANBU, would he prefer you spraying febreze into the loo while he is still in there

[EffieGadsby]

Oh god, this brings back memories of a flatmate I used to have. The rest of us would dare each other to go in the bathroom after he'd finished, to open the window and spray the bathroom with air freshener. The smell of shit is not pleasant under any circmstances, but there is that particular kind of evil smell that only a few people make, and it sounds like your DH and my ex flatmate have similar bowels. No, YANBU - you shouldn't have to endure his pong. And keep trumping, to hide he smell he generates.

[Greensleeves]

Riven I do actually encourage him to unburden himself at work

I posted about that on MN once, years ago, and got absolutely minced for it - controlling, evil, neurotic, intolerable fishwife etc etc

but honestly, his bowels are those of an old old man

it's not coeliac, it's mild non-coeliac gluten intolerance - gluten used to make him really ill as a child, and now excesses of it make him ill, but eating normal amounts of it just makes him stinky

[daftpunk]

i feel your pain...thank god i can't smell his...

[cheeseytoastie]

Boys at my work light a match in the loo to stop it smelling, apparently it's something to do with the sulpher when the match is struck (or something). They swear it works and totally removes the smell (and they all 'unburden' themselves at work). Lovely.

[ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight]

YANBU at all. I simply don't understand how my DH makes the smells he does. We eat similar diets (although he eats meat and fish sometimes) and mine...well it's not lovely but y'know, quick spray of oust, shut the door, gone in two minutes and doesn't pervade the whole house. We lived in a tiny flat a few years ago, and the loo window opened into a wee courtyard which the bedroom window opened into as well, so both windows open was no help as it flowed right back in. Couldn't open door as it was right into our living room from the street. Oh my God. Do what you have to do.

[pjmama]

Tell him to go and have his daily Tom Tit BEFORE he leaves work. He could try cheesey's match trick so as not to offend co-workers?

[ZacharyQuack]

The match trick DOES NOT WORK* - all it does is add the smell of burning matches to the smell of shit.

And if I can convince you of this, can you please have a word with my DH?

[2rebecca]

Opening toilet window, spraying air freshener and closing toilet door when you come out works in our house. Only gets smelly if bloke doesn't open window and leaves door open.