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To put my little miss judgey pants on today because

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imaynotbeperfectbutimokmummy Thu 02-Jul-09 15:20:09

I was walking down the high street with DD. Two cars came speeding to a stop (that doesn't make sense i know, but you know what i mean) at a zebra crossing. Young drivers, obviously racing. Music BLARING, i mean, BLARING. Young girl sat in front seat, swigging can of Stella.


poor wee mite must have been deafened! I also couldn't help but wonder if that can of beer was being passed to the driver too.

I made a comment that i bet the baby loved that music hmm and they turned it off and gave me daggers. Thinking on it though, i was a bit slow - i should have noted the number plate and phoned the police. Drove off before that thought registered past my outrage blush.

Tamarto Thu 02-Jul-09 15:23:34

'Phoned the police' Why? because a passenger is drinking, omg the outrage!

RumourOfAHurricane Thu 02-Jul-09 15:24:44

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crazylizzy Thu 02-Jul-09 15:27:45

YANBU to be cross and upset but you are BU to want to ring the police. No law was actually being broken and you shouldn't assume that the driver was drinking.

2shoes Thu 02-Jul-09 15:28:35


blinder Thu 02-Jul-09 15:31:25

I think the OP was concerned that the drivers were racing, hence their dangerous speed near a crossing, hence the call to the police.

Of course YANBU - they sound like an accident waiting to happen IMO, especially if they can race with a baby in the back!

imaynotbeperfectbutimokmummy Thu 02-Jul-09 15:31:56

i agree re phoning the police, like you all say, i didn't see the driver drinking. And i guess, if he only had a sip or two, even then there is no law actually being broken.

Must have been pretty shit for baby though. Let alone the way they were driving.

sarah293 Thu 02-Jul-09 15:32:52

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imaynotbeperfectbutimokmummy Thu 02-Jul-09 15:36:10

you know shineon - im not sure about this, but i think i heard recently that it is actually against the law to play loud music in a car in a public area - but i could also be making that up, but im sure its been discussed on here even.

sarah293 Thu 02-Jul-09 16:10:47

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gagamama Thu 02-Jul-09 16:19:32

If they could hear you talking to them from the zebra crossing though, surely it can't have been that loud?

RumourOfAHurricane Thu 02-Jul-09 16:27:43

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Littlepurpleprincess Thu 02-Jul-09 20:14:13

There maybe no law actually being broken but do they sound like capable parent's to you? It's always ok to report a concern about a child. If more people did, maybe less parent's would think its ok to be so crap.

jybay Thu 02-Jul-09 20:34:21

Blimey, if that is enough to get you worked up, don't start working in a socially deprived area. I would be ecstatic if all my patients used car seats for their kids, however loud the music.

Littlepurpleprincess Fri 03-Jul-09 10:01:12

I live in a very mixed area and tbh I get really fed up of this soft aproach to crap parenting. It's ok to play loud music at your baby, speed, and consume alcohol while responsable for a child because you've remembered the car seat! Oh well done, a pat on the back for you!

Why is that an achievement?! So they bloody should have their kid in a car seat.

Thye need a kick up the ass.

Enviousbitch Fri 03-Jul-09 10:04:01

why isn't it nice hmm

The damage to the eardrums would be the same if it was classical music and she was sipping a glass of chilled Sancerre.

Bet no fucker would judge then hmm

HecatesTwopenceworth Fri 03-Jul-09 10:08:14

Booming music + small baby = wrong.

I'd have judged as well. you can damage their hearing for life if you subject them to extremely loud music regularly (And no, I don't think it is likely that it was a one off.)

Overmydeadbody Fri 03-Jul-09 10:12:46

Maybe the baby was wearing ear plugs?

imaynotbeperfectbutimokmummy Fri 03-Jul-09 10:54:20

I absolutely WOULD have judged EB. I think what i was judging the most was the absolute disregard for the poor little mite in the back seat. Also, with that level of music playing, how can the driver be fully aware of his surroundings.

jybay Fri 03-Jul-09 11:58:23

Agree with enviousbitch - I don't see how anyone can possibly say these people are incapable parents based on this snapshot. I see lots of kids from households that I would regard as chaotic who actually do very well because they are loved. We are far too judgemental about the superficial stuff.

Alestorm Fri 03-Jul-09 12:01:34

How did you know the baby was 4 months old. hmm

And how did they hear you if the music was so loud?

MagNacarta Fri 03-Jul-09 12:05:20

Jeez I used to play music in the car when my dc's were babies, they used to love it - wiggle their legs and giggle. If they'd been driving a Jag and playing classical music would you still be wearing your judgy pants.

smartacus Fri 03-Jul-09 12:09:50

I agree with Littlepurpleprincess!

MamaLazarou Fri 03-Jul-09 12:31:36

I have just had to refrain from putting my judgey pants on in the park. A woman pushing a baby in a pram with the rain cover on: the baby was under blankets wearing a snowsuit with the hood up and a wooly hat on underneath. It's 26 degrees here today!

imaynotbeperfectbutimokmummy Fri 03-Jul-09 13:53:54

oh my god, get those chips off yer shoulders girls, i couldnt give a shit if it were a jag or a sooped up fiesta. I con't care if the music was motzart or eminem, it was TOO LOUD! My baby used to like loud music, heavy rock actually - but not so loud that it would have burst her ear drums.

Mama, i am constantly shock by people bundling up their babies in warm weather. Tis proper dangerous that is.

Now you see, call me paranoid, but i wouldnt go out "boy racing" with my baby in the back of the car - on account of actually giving a shit about my child.

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