Edit post I was just walking along with ds1 and ds2 and I saw this little girl a bit younger than ds2 in a stroller, my first thought was "Oh unusual for a girl she is not very pretty" I looked up from the pram to see her parents a woman who looked about 15 and MY EX HUSBAND!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I should probably explain, I got married in september 2003 and in October 2005 he left me. his reasons? well he had got his leave to remain in the UK and his passport. It was not until we split I found out his father had a wife already lined up for him and had done for 6 years. SO basically he married me so he could bring her over.
I am not sure how I feel I know I have moved on and had a baby with my new partner but..... before we split he made me go through hell and always told me he couldn't have children.
Wow!! That must have been a hell of a shock! You didn't say what you might be being unreasonable about, but somehow I guess that you're not. It must be horrible to discover that your marriage was merely a sham to get a passport. (If you wanted to be really nasty about it, you could always report him, but they probably wouldn't be so interested now...???) I hope you can look at your situation now, with your new partner and your far more beautiful DSs and feel happy. You are obviously much better off without him and can put it all down to experience.
Ruth, oh i didn't say anything i daren't!!!! he tried to talk, Hi How are you, Hi ds1 oh and whats his name he is gorgeous"
I just walked away, ds1 just glared!! Mind you this is the man he called daddy for 2 years who then walked out telling him he no longer needed us. &&(&%&((!!!!! is what I think of him so i never said a word,
I think that was very controlled of you to say nothing at all. Did your DS remember him then? It must have been as much as a shock for him as it was for you. It's not surprising that you hate him. It sounds like you have every right to. He can have a '&%#$ OFF' from me too!!!