The father of my child has been allowed unrestricted access since we split up 3 years ago. Since police involvement in a domestic violence incident he is no longer welcome to visit the house. The incident occured after drinking & he has always drink. My 4 year old stayed at her grandmas where her dad lives & I thought this was ok. However, she had 5 large balls with gifts from a pub co maching & activity pack - from various adults. She said they got back late & she felt jealous and ignored because her dad picked up a lady & she was sat on his knee. Other people had bought the stuff for her not her dad. Am I right to have panic alarm bells after she has spent saturday night hanging out in a pub on a drinking session with a drunk father. He lives 60 miles away and has been done for drink driving..should i review terms of access. He doesn't appear to be responsible.
Too right you should review terms of access. Sounds like he doesn't give a damn about your dd. His behaviour is disgraceful and I would be very angry and concerned if I were you. Seek legal advice now.