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To not invite my mum on holiday with us?

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staranise Mon 29-Jun-09 09:09:09

Help me out with a guilt trip here.

My mum is single and limited for people to go on holiday with. She went away with my sister and her family last year and also with a friend for a week.

I feel it is our turn to invite her this year but... I just couldn't face it (our relationship is okay but she is not relaxing company and I like our holidays to be just me Dh and kids, no family of either side). There are also practical difficulties eg, she lives miles away from us, doesn't drive and can't fit in our car. Plus we tend to go on holiday in the UK, often camping, which isn't my mum's sort of thing and is v difficult to do if you don't drive.

My sister and I are planning to take her abroad for a long weekend in the autumn but I feel we probably should have invited her along on our family holiday (too late now, we've booked). We do see her a fair bit otherwise. geography permitting, plus the kids are going to stay at hers in the holidays. What do you think?

TheArmadillo Mon 29-Jun-09 09:12:45

YANBU.

She wouldn't enjoy your holiday from the sound of it and you wouldn't enjoy your holiday with her there. You're going away with her later in the year.

QuintessentialShadow Mon 29-Jun-09 09:12:48

You are not responsible for your mums holidays. Dont feel guilty for not taking her camping, she is probably pleased not to be asked if it is not "her sort of thing"! You are doing plenty already by taking her abroad in the automn! smile

bubblagirl Mon 29-Jun-09 09:13:42

well if she's going away with you later in the yr and doesn't like camping what is there to be guilty about just tell her you look forward to your break later on your entitled to some alone family time and she will get a holiday later on with you enjoy your break

HumphreyCobbler Mon 29-Jun-09 09:14:34

I agree with the others.
You ARE taking her away, stop feeling guilty!

staranise Mon 29-Jun-09 09:43:48

Thanks smile

Will put off the guilt until next year's holiday...

PricklyVelvet Mon 29-Jun-09 12:52:09

god taking my mum on holiday would be my idea of hell!!!

she is a grown up and you dont have to feel bad about not wanting her there on YOUR holiday..

PotPourri Mon 29-Jun-09 12:53:49

YANBU - your holiday, and there is no room anyway. You are doing something in the autumn - that is nice of you - so remember that when you feel guilty.

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