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2shoes Sun 28-Jun-09 22:47:43

if I don't mention dd's sn......
for example the tve thread, I could have explained that they had tv's in their bedrooms, as dd has sn ans ds need some where he could watch a tv in peace, and as she has severe cp she can't do much.
but since I was told last week that mentioning the fact that your dd has severe sn is "trumping"
so wtf do you do???

ingles2 Sun 28-Jun-09 22:49:08

You weren't were you???? Who the f* told you that 2 shoes?

2shoes Sun 28-Jun-09 22:50:17

the thread was deleted, but tbh it has affected my posting ever since, I even thought twice about posting about dd having a fit last night

AnotherFineMess Sun 28-Jun-09 22:51:19

Explaining why your DS has a TV isn't 'trumping', it's factual.

I personally really appreciate what I learn about SN when parents post things like that - I think it helps those of us without children with SN see things from a different perspective and (speaking for myself) perhaps not be so quick to make gerneralisations in future.

2shoes Sun 28-Jun-09 22:52:34

I was told that mentioning the fact that you dc has severe sn was trumping and I should use mn as an escape from rl.
this isn't a dig
I just really want to know what to do

ingles2 Sun 28-Jun-09 22:52:40

Ah no! don't let it spoil your posting. You write whatever you want, when you want and how you want!
I always want to be reminded of posters backgrounds because my memory is crap, so carry on.....

Firawla Sun 28-Jun-09 22:53:02

wth @ trumping.. i would just ignore that comment if i was you!
yanbu

ingles2 Sun 28-Jun-09 22:54:20

x posts... MN isn't just an escape from reality though is it.. It can be, but It's also a chance to find other people who are experiencing the same things...
Ignore them sweetheart...

woozlet Sun 28-Jun-09 22:54:50

You should post what you want and ignnore the 'trumping' comment.

Ivykaty44 Sun 28-Jun-09 22:55:35

I have no idea what it is like living with a dc with special needs - so please tell me and keep telling me so that I know and that I have to except that things are different in your house for good reason.

Plus the more you tell me the more I will hopefully understand.

5inthebed Sun 28-Jun-09 22:55:39

But you are trumoing 2hoes, you've got more TV's in your house than me wink

Honestly though, I wouldn't see that as trumping. You're explaining why YOU need more than one TV in your house, why your DS has one in his room.

Don't let it spoil your replies to posts, I have never been offended (or trumped wink) by one of your posts. smile

cory Sun 28-Jun-09 22:55:59

know what you mean, 2shoes; since that thread have avoided posting on things like family exercise, because it's difficult for me to make much sense if I can't explain that dd can't walk more than a few metres; but I don't want people to think that I'm always dragging it in and making a nuisance of myself/touting for sympathy

I think we need to get over this one, you know; thread has been deleted, we got a lot of support at the time; it's all done and dusted

5inthebed Sun 28-Jun-09 22:56:34

Oh, and FWIW, my DS1 has a tv in his room for the exact same reason your DS has on in his.

FAQinglovely Sun 28-Jun-09 23:00:02

eccho was anotherfinemess said.

in fact I'd go as far to say that it's partly because of posts like that that I'm doing the course I'm doing now.

2shoes Sun 28-Jun-09 23:00:05

cory inwym
and I wouldn't have asked......but it has changed the way I am posting and now it is like I am only telling half the story. I now find myself worrying that others hold that op

giraffescantdancethetango Sun 28-Jun-09 23:00:18

Ignore whoever said that - you are simply explaining the situation. You have as much right to explain about your DD as anyone else. I post about my DD and she isn't even on the earth anymore - if I can do it so can you. I like hearing about your DD, remember seeing photos of her before and shes lovely.

KnickKnack Sun 28-Jun-09 23:00:48

I think you should carry on posting in your normal way, and mention your DDs SN as it puts your post in perspective (especially for those who have not been on here very long or who do not "know" you)

JackBauer Sun 28-Jun-09 23:00:57

Hmmm, what to do...how about ignore the silly bitch who posted sucha ridiculous insensitive comment and carry on posting as you were, including any info you feel is relevant, as that is your situation. Why should you 'hide' facts that are true?
Thread was deleted for a reason, that being people did not agreesmile

thumbwitch Sun 28-Jun-09 23:01:11

2shoes (and cory and anyone else that happened to) - that's dreadful. If it's pertinent to the discussion, then of course you should feel able to mention your DD's SN, because it changes things for you. It's not a bloody competition on here (except sometimes it feels like it) and anyone who thinks you are trying to "trump" a thread has got serious ishoos of their own and you should not allow their opinion to affect you so badly.

Please carry on as before.

mummylin2495 Sun 28-Jun-09 23:01:52

2shoes ,just carry on posting the same as you always have.If some people dont like it then tough.

MaryMotherOfCheeses Sun 28-Jun-09 23:02:34

2shoes, ignore whoever said that to you.

If you need to mention your dd's sn, to explain something you're saying, then go ahead and mention it.

Are you supposed to pretend she doesn't have sn?

2shoes Sun 28-Jun-09 23:04:03

the thread was deleted because it had my name in the title(so personal attack) sounds like I can stop worrying and talk about my beautiful(when asleep) dd

giraffescantdancethetango Sun 28-Jun-09 23:04:51

Oh no Cory as well I never even saw the thread in question - glad I didnt it sounds foul. It is definetly not the view of the majority.

Niecie Sun 28-Jun-09 23:05:42

Use MN to escape RL? This is a parenting site. How are you supposed to escape RL when you are on a parenting site and you are talking about your DC?

Unless of course you pretend your DD doesn't have SN. hmm

Ignore those comments - post what you want. Tough luck if it makes others uncomfortable. They should count their blessings and remember not everybody has perfect lives.

'Trumping indeed' - it isn't a competition!

StarlightMcKenzie Sun 28-Jun-09 23:05:53

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