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AIBU?

Probably, but he threw my dinner in the bin!

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Washersaurus · 27/06/2009 22:44

So, DH has been in a crappy mood today (well he is most days tbh). He cooked tea for us all earlier, but just as he served it up I realised my period had started. I dashed upstairs to sort myself out and he called me, I said I'd only be a min. He got cross and stood at the bottom of the stairs - I stood at the top in my pants and said that I would not shout downstairs what I was doing, I would only be a second. He shouted back that he had thrown my dinner in the bin.

I walked out.

DS2 still has bedtime milk from me, I feel guilty for him, I shouldn't have left him really, but honestly I can't deal with that sort of behaviour.

I have just got back from a family party that I otherwise wouldn't have attended, and have eaten some toast.

Was I wrong to walk out?

Am I brave enough for your replies?

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Washersaurus · 27/06/2009 22:45

I did pop some trousers on before I left btw

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MaryBS · 27/06/2009 22:47

Why ON EARTH did he throw your dinner in the bin???

hereidrawtheline · 27/06/2009 22:48

that is horrible!!!! why on earth would he do that? There must be pre-existing negative conditions to make him do that, or he is a terrible jackass?? It makes no sense to do that?

cathcat · 27/06/2009 22:48

YANBU.
He was VU.
I think that is horrible behaviour from him, poor you.

CharCharGabor · 27/06/2009 22:48

Does he often do things like that? V ott imo

yousaidit · 27/06/2009 22:48

i w3ouldn't ccok him anything until he really apologises.

why did he do that?

TheCrackFox · 27/06/2009 22:48

He sounds like an arse.

booyhoo · 27/06/2009 22:48

he threw your dinner in the bin because you went to the bathroom?? really? how long have you been putting up with this for?

Thunderduck · 27/06/2009 22:49

YANBU.What an ass. I'd have been furious.

memoo · 27/06/2009 22:49

UANBU, tbh I think your DH's behaviour is absolutely shocking, like a child throwing a tantrum!

Is it usual for you DH to behave like that?

milou2 · 27/06/2009 22:52

I would have sworn a lot too. It sounds good that at least you had a family event to go to, remind yourself that there are some people on your side.

I guess you knew that ds2 would have been ok with your husband even after a row, so that is something a bit reassuring.

Does he know yet that when a period starts you just have to deal with it?

tigana · 27/06/2009 22:53

I often resort to roaring "I'm having a wee!" down the stairs when dh calls dinner for the 3rd time...but he would never bin the dinner... just call me again...and again...

Just of tadge of an overreaction from your dh!
um...why is he always in a crappy mood? Is there a back story here?

Jux · 27/06/2009 22:53

So he treats you like an overbearing adult would a naughty child. Wouldn't you rather have a partner?

Washersaurus · 27/06/2009 22:54

I suppose he would say it was my fault. I'm fed up with it. He keeps telling me the boys fight less, DS1 wets himself less etc when I'm not around (which is very very rarely). I know these things are not my fault.

It all started because I told him he was wrong to be so forceful getting DS1 dressed this morning.

Sorry if a bit rambly, I've had wine

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StewieGriffinsMom · 27/06/2009 22:56

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tigana · 27/06/2009 22:58

so it one of those rows that never quite happen? the ones that sort of simmer along for hours - days - weeks where you are both narky and snappy but never actually have the row?

Jux · 27/06/2009 22:59

You should have eaten his! If he wants to chuck perfectly good food away then he's the one who should go without

fishie · 27/06/2009 23:00

why wouldn't you have gone to the party otherwise?

Washersaurus · 27/06/2009 23:01

I think probably for the entire duration of my marriage tigana.

I should never have become a SAHM.

Washersaurus for example, is a twat.

I'll regret posting this in the morn

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tigana · 27/06/2009 23:03

tigana · 27/06/2009 23:04

so..why can't you become a pt sahm?

controlfreakythecontrolfreak · 27/06/2009 23:05

you are wrong....

mr w., for example, is a (bully and a) twat

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Washersaurus · 27/06/2009 23:10

Well, noone has told me IABU yet, but I still feel really guilty about walking out on my boys. I shall resist the urge to go upstairs and give them a cuddle. Am putting off going to bed.

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onepieceofcremeegg · 27/06/2009 23:13

This is horrible behaviour from him. It actually would appear that he wanted to humiliate you. It wouldn't take much imagination to work out that you had popped upstairs to the loo for some personal reason. Did he expect you to shout the details down and humiliate yourself?

Washersaurus · 27/06/2009 23:16

I feel so bad because mainly all I could think of whilst out was that I wished I'd put my mooncup in . I'm trying to wean DS2 slowly anyway...he is 2 next month

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