Here's a bit of background. My friend, D, has been divorced for two and a half years. Her exH had a gambling problem, and basically lost them everything. She is still tied to debts that he ran up in both their names, which she didn't know about (he'd bring her things to sign, saying it was a new DD for the mortgage etc, and she trusted him). For two years she held it together, to make sure her two sons were ok. Just after Christmas, she hit rock bottom and had a terrible time. I think it was only then that her marriage break up really hit her.
Anyway, she's picked herself up and about three months ago joined a dating site. She met a few men, simply for sex. I was worried about her, and told her so, as I felt she was putting herself in danger. She told me she was going to stop. However, three weeks ago a man contacted her from the site, and a week later came to visit her. They are now in love and talking about marriage, after two weeks.
I'm a bit worried by some of the things she has told me he has said, such as 'You don't need to work, I'll look after you' (friend, and new man, currently on benefits), 'I don't want to meet your family yet, I want to keep you all to myself', and 'You're beautiful, so lose some weight and make the most of yourself' (obviously, this is second hand info from friend) Am I being totally unreasonable on hearing warning bells about a man who seems so quick to jump in to a full on relationship, involving three kids (friend has two, he has one DS who lives woith him), but doesn't want to get involved in my friends life in any way? I don't want to rain on her parade, but I'm concerned.
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BroodyChook · 26/06/2009 13:37
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