To think sometimes mumsnet sucks

[VeraDuckworthsHandbag]

Now I know it is just a bunch of people on the WWW but in the time I have been on here I have been given some great advice, seen others given great advice , and support, and hope and friendship and on the whole I think most people here are decent.
I know everyone is different and everyone has the right to their own point of view but sometimes just sometimes it gets so hypercritical I could scream.

A mumsnetter who's husband is having an affair is joined in the Other woman bashing, but a mums netter who is about to embark on or is having an affair is given support.

A person who has a husband or partner going to jail is given support and of course he is judged innocent

Then there is the great mumsnet get out of jail free card depression.

But when it really becomes quite sick is on days like today when someone in the public eye dies and holier then thou posters start dancing on the grave.

All you people bashing Micheal Jackson today should be ashamed as he was never convicted of anything, there was no proof he had done anything wrong but in true Jade goody style it starts and people show their sick side.
Everyone thinking he was a perv, can you hand on heart say your partner has NEVER looked at something child related on the internet? Now as you all say not my man just think about it, you do not know.

How do you know when a mumsnetter comes on and says their partner /parent what ever has died and we all go so sorry thinking of you, that that dead person was a good person? You don't but you say sorry for the familys loss.

The same people who have a go today will be the ones who say "oh no you can't hang people" the sort that defend pond scum like Sharon Matthews mother because she was "depressed" or stick up for the dirty fat bitch on wifeswap cause "it is sociality to blame that she was too lazy to get her fat arse out of bed and feed her child anythink better then crisp and not hers"

In the rush to be the most PC person on the board you lose sight of the truth, and sometimes the truth is not PC.

If MJ had been married to a mumsnetter the threads today would be so so different, and anyone who thinks not is deluded

[cheesesarnie]

i completly agree and think that is a fantastic post,i have stayed away from mj threads so far because of this but am at 'can you hand on heart say your partner has NEVER looked at something child related on the internet?'

[Fimbo]

Oh fgs. And btw it's Michael not Micheal and Shannon Matthews.

[hana]

gawd I definitely DO know that my husband doesn't look at kiddy porn (cos that's what you're inferring it is) on the internet

[Lizzylou]

Everyone thinking he was a perv, can you hand on heart say your partner has NEVER looked at something child related on the internet? Now as you all say not my man just think about it, you do not know.


It is not NORMAL to look at child porn, it's not just a mistake.

If I thought for one second that my DH had or would or might possibly look at child porn he would be slung out.

What an absurd and ridiculous statement.

[GetOrfMoiLand]

wtf????

The great get out of jail free card - depression?

Can you put your hand on your heart and say that your partner has not looked at anything child related on the internet?

Oh, fuck off (and I have never said that before on MN)

[SouthMum]

Wow

[poopscoop]

The thing is you will always get these fisticuffs on MN. Today is one of those days. Everyone will have their own view on the MJ saga. Just press the hide button on anything you feel is going to piss you off.

[FabBakerGirlIsBack]

Get out of jail card - depression?

[expatinscotland]

'All you people bashing Micheal Jackson today should be ashamed as he was never convicted of anything, there was no proof he had done anything wrong but in true Jade goody style it starts and people show their sick side.
Everyone thinking he was a perv, can you hand on heart say your partner has NEVER looked at something child related on the internet? Now as you all say not my man just think about it, you do not know.'



You're right, though, sometimes some real freaks come out on here.

[hands OP a mirror]

[seeker]

"can you hand on heart say your partner has NEVER looked at something child related on the internet?'

Yes.

[FatFree]

Bloody hell, i know you are clearly grieving for a bloke you never knew, but bloody hell, kiddy porn and get out of jail free depression????? WTF!

[cherryblossoms]

You seem to be assuming that "mn" is one huge beast, with a single identity.

It's not; it's a talkboard.

There are many people posting, with multiple viewpoints.

Some opinions may be very different from your own. Seeking to silence those in the name of your own moral outlook is ... odd ... but, perhaps, understandable. however, it is futile.

Public space is not uniform; there is a difference between, errm, some sort of "expert" journal and say, mn. There is less at stake in posting and reading opinions on mn than maybe more power-infused public spaces. So, in many ways, often, it just doesn't matter if someone posts here with an opinion very much at variance from your own.

Btw, did you mean "hypocritical" or "hyper-critical"? If you meant "hypocritical", in that many, competing and contradictory situations will elicit support, I think that is because threads will often call forward positive responses, ie. people who feel supportive will answer, those who don't may well choose to remain silent. That can give an impression of inconsistency.

[Itsjustafleshwound]

There is the off button and the hide button ...

If MN is getting on your goat so much, just step away from the 'puter and stop tarring all users with your gerneralisations..

[hf128219]

The op clearly has no understanding of mental illness.

[Itsjustafleshwound]

Sorry - generalisations

[LtEveDallas]

"can you hand on heart say your partner has NEVER looked at something child related on the internet?"

Yes, definately.

(so which are you then, the OW I take it?)

[AMumInScotland]

I assume you mean "hypocritical". And I think really, only one single person can be that. We are many, and we have a wide range of different opinions. So, overall, "Mumsnet" is not going to have one consistent view on any subject.

I haven't read any of the MJ threads - I assume they divide up quite easily into people who (like you) think he was a nice person wronged by the media, and those who think he got away with paedophilia because he was rich enough to pay off his victims families. Neither side is going to change their views on that.

[oopsagain]

hands spoons around to all and sundry.

i'll watch this with interest today.

at home avoiding housework...
will pass the time nicely

[hobbgoblin]

Is this a MJ thread masquerading as something else? If so I decline to comment. If not then I have an opinion on the so called hypocrisy...

[OrmIrian]

Not in the slightest bit interested in MJ or the things he was accused of, nor in his life or music.

However I can see what you mean about the double standards. To a certain extent. But we tend to treat people on here as 'real' in a way that MJ isn't to most of us. You don't kick real people when they are down. You offer support. I doubt very much that any member of MJ's family would be terribly distressed by MN. Do you really think they would?

Do take issue with the idea that depression is not a get out of jail free card. IME it is a jail in itself.

And please don't use 'PC' and an insult. It isn't. It's a way of treating people with consideration. Being vile to someone who has done something awful isn't un-PC, it's vengeful and childish and pointless.

[OrmIrian]

"as an insult".

[Lulumama]

vera, you only post under this name to cause strife, doncha?

would love to know who you really are

[suwoo]

This is hilarious. The OP may have started a sensible post, but my god, asking us all to wonder if our partners are looking at child porn, is one of the most ridiculous yet hilarious comments I have seen on here in a long time.





Fucking loon.

[OrmIrian]

And what does "looked at something child related on the internet" mean? My DH has. He did a search for some Woodland animals playmobil the other night, for DS#2. Should I shop him?