Background. My mil lives abroad for part of the year. My dd is 1. Mil has just come back to the UK. I took dd over last week to see her, and am taking her today. Last night DH and I had a huge row about him thinking that me taking her once a week is not enough, and she should be seeing her 2-3 times a week! They also both think I should be leaving dd with her this week and going off and doing something on my own. I'm probably being a bit pfb about this, but my daughter spends all her time with me, I'm a sahm and don't have any other family around that she stays with. She has a bit of separation anxiety so I want to make sure she is comfortable with mil before I abandon her there. I'm planning to do so next week if she's ok with her this week.
I don't particularly get on with my mil, she is overbearing, judgemental and stubborn. She's implied in the past that she doesn't think I'm a good mum (although apparently I redeemed myself on this front) and doesn't agree with a lot of my parenting views. I know that she will feed my dd things that I wouldn't and treat her differently than I would and I'm trying to be accepting of this and suppress my pfb feelings. However, I don't think I should have to go and see her 2-3 times a week and leave her there so I can do my own thing. I had a child because I wanted a child, I'm not going to be a sahm mum forever so I want to make the most of it. We have a very busy schedule and do things together every day.
DH and I have not spoken since the row last night and I know that what he was saying was coming from his mother, not him. AIBU in only letting mil see her granddaughter once a week?
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chaosisawayoflife · 25/06/2009 11:05
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