my dad was married previously when he was 16yrs old. He and his wife split and after 5 years he lost contact with his 2 children from that marriage. to cut a long story short my "brother" contacted me before xmas asking if we could meet to which i said yes.
He stayed with me for 5 hours and at the end of it said he could never see us sitting down as a family....fine by me iyswim?
However via me he made contact with my sister and mum, he has continued contact with my sister but not mum or I. I sent him an email over a week ago asking how he his children and wife were and whether they had any plans for his daughters birthday. I have not recieved a reply. My problems begin here.
My nephews birthday is the day after my nieces birthday, now i know that arrangements have been made for us "all" to go to the coast for the day. I feel like it is going to be very uncomfortable for me as he cannot even be bothered to reply to my emails even though he emails my sister almost daily, I also feel she is partly to blame as when I had ds2 baptised I did not invite him as my brother who i grew up with was more important for being there, if that makes sense. But she went and told him nonetheless.
I do not want to let my nephew down as he is my baby ( my sister had 5 miscarriages before she had him and he is so special to me) BUT i don't want to be in an uncomfortable situation with my 2 children iyswim?
Hi, I have to say, what mrsjammi said about a crush occurred to me as well. The advice to try and think of him as a friend of your sister is good, but even in those circs. it would be awkward.
I think you have no choice, though, but to go. Just try and rise above. YOU are not the one who should be feeling bad. IMO, he is behaving a bit oddly. If it really is a terrible day, then I'd maybe avoid this type of situation in the future.
Something else occurs (sorry if I am wide of the mark):
Did your dad ever look for his son, and do you know how his son felt about his dad?
If this man is in any way resentful, I am wondering if he is maybe playing divisive games