Oh dear. I've gone back to work FT but a lot of it is done from home so I'm around to see some of what is going on. I'm hardly supermum, far from it, but I'm worried about the way in which DH is looking after DS. We agreed that DH would do childcare as I have better earning potential than him, and he seemed happy with doing that when we made the decision together. Maybe the reality of doing FT childcare has hit home, I don't know.
When I have taken a break from work to have a cup of coffee, I have several times gone in to them to find 18 month old DS unsupervised (but within earshot I suppose) whilst DH is on the computer. He lets him watch lots of telly, doesn't do many activities with him and feeds him crap with very little fruit and veg even though I have frozen meals down that DH could give to him. DH's heart just doesn't seem to be in it. When I went back to work I said that I thought DH should aim as I have, to give him at least one home cooked meal a day and not too much junk, a physical activity such as a trip to the park or even time playing in the garden (he is quite active and needs this), and limit TV. This doesn't happen every day when I look after DS, but I try, I don't think it hurts to have in mind a few standards to aim for, do you? DS is currently spending most days stuck in the house, watching lots of telly. It is a shame as he is not a difficult boy to amuse - he loves painting, getting involved, going out and about.
It is early days yet, so I am giving things a month or two to bed down, but AIBU in the back of my mind to be thinking that DH is not really into doing this, and that ultimately DS would be better being looked after by a professional at least part time so DH could cope better and I would have more peace of mind. How we afford that help is another questionQ"!BTW, we agreed that DH would do childcare as I have better earning potential than him, and he seemed happy with doing that when we made the decision together. Maybe the reality of doing it has hit home, I don't know.
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Stressedmummy1 · 23/06/2009 10:31
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