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AIBU?

to feel a bit miffed when someone's response to where I work, (I work at the local school for an hour and a half each day), is a quizzical "So that's enough for you then?!"

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onthepier · 22/06/2009 16:24

I have two primary school children, one of them with special needs. I help out at their school normally for an hour and a half each day, (paid work), this could be lunchtime supervising or classroom assisting, depending on where I'm needed.
It does feel almost full time though, as I do the morning and afternoon school run, fitting in everything that needs to be done at home/food shopping/bill paying in between.

My dh works very long hours so I do all the after school things, homework, ferrying them to activities, parents evenings etc too.

I'm not moaning by the way, I love being a full time mum but when I described my job this lady, (another schoolrun mum) looked incredulous, saying she'd be bored in between, and suggesting she lets me know which day off she has each week and meeting for coffee, as surely I must be at a loose end in between!

I agreed to swap mobile numbers as I do like this lady, but said I couldn't commit to certain days as the week gets busy. we're having home improvements done at the moment, seem to very often be having people to stay weekends, which I use my weekday time to prepare for, + there are a couple of friends + my mum, who I often meet up with after school pick-up.

She just shook her head and said, "But you must get so BORED doing the same old stuff!" I know she works almost full time in a management position, but I just don't get bored, it would almost be nice to have the time to!!

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bigchris · 22/06/2009 16:25

some people are so tactless!

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GrimmaTheNome · 22/06/2009 16:26

YABU - you should feel sorry for her that she's so easily bored and doesn't know how to fill her time constructively

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LastTrainToNowhere · 22/06/2009 16:35

YANBU. I get this all the time from a certain "friend" who keeps insisting that I must be bored! Worse still, this same mum seems to think I'm free all day every day and waiting for her to call me and save me from my boredom....she says things like "I have an hour off from work at 2 tomorrow so I can meet you for coffee." Um, no you can't, as I (believe it or not) already have a jam-packed schedule full of important things to do.

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Satsuma1 · 23/06/2009 20:35

YANBU.

When I was on maternity leave (I work part-time now sadly), I always had loads to do. In fact, it's much harder to get things done around the house with LO's to care for!

I suspect she might be a bit envious of you and feels she has to pick fault with your lifestyle.

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chegirl · 23/06/2009 20:50

At least she was trying to be friendly but, yes, she is tactless!

If you like her, meet her for a coffee and I am sure she will soon realise what a rich and fulfilled life you lead.

Then you can ask her for coffee when 'she gets a moment off from her daily grind'

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itsalwaysthequietones · 23/06/2009 21:21

YANBU - very annoying. I don't think people get how little time you have when you're a stay at home mum. Incidentally, I work from home (having spent a year on mat leave) so I've had experience of both!

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