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to want school to think Father's Day is important too

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biffandchip Fri 19-Jun-09 23:13:21

For Mother's Day I got a card from DS1 (Y2), a card from DS2 (YFS) and a card and present from DS3 (Nursery). Why is it then that there was one Father's Day card from DS2 brought home from school and nothing from DS1 or DS3. Do schools tread carefully bearing in mind the number of children who might not be in contact with their father. I must say, whatever the reason I am disappointed and feel like it devalues the role of the father. I think I will raise it with the teachers next week.

cookielove Fri 19-Jun-09 23:14:30

its because we all forgot!!!! i apologise for all teachers nursery nurses e.t.c that forgot we're SORRY blush

2shoes Fri 19-Jun-09 23:15:24

isn't it cos mothers day is a religious thing, where as fathers day isn't?

hf128219 Fri 19-Jun-09 23:15:46

It's arecent and an american phenomenen.

hf128219 Fri 19-Jun-09 23:15:47

It's arecent and an american phenomenen.

biffandchip Fri 19-Jun-09 23:16:13

don't think mother's day is religious

2shoes Fri 19-Jun-09 23:16:55

mothering sunday

FAQinglovely Fri 19-Jun-09 23:17:15

1. Because it's an American traditional thing - not at all linked with Mothers day (well it is in the US - but Mothers day in the US has different origins from the UK one

2. Possibly because there is less risk of causing upset by sending Mothers Day cards in terms of absent Mothers than there is with fathers??

(both pure speculation)

biffandchip Fri 19-Jun-09 23:17:47

Recent hmm I've been sending cards for 40yrs so its not like it was concocted a few months ago grin

hf128219 Fri 19-Jun-09 23:18:28

Eh?? Mothering Sunday honours the Virgin Mary.

Snorbs Fri 19-Jun-09 23:19:32

I know what you mean and it's not just schools. My DS did a Mother's Day card at Cubs, DD did one at Brownies and decorated a fairy cake as a present, and they both did other cards at after-school school club. Father's Day? Nothing. sad

Chuffinnora Fri 19-Jun-09 23:19:44

I will stick to my it's Father's Day every day mantra but... I agree. Neither DD or DS have done anything in school for DH, but I had a plant grown for me, lots of cards and various other stuff

pointydog Fri 19-Jun-09 23:19:59

very likely there are children in the class who have no or little coitact with dad. The teachers might know more about the home lives of the children than you.

Cgildren can make things at home too. Does it have to be at school?

FAQinglovely Fri 19-Jun-09 23:20:16

well that depends on whether you're Catholic or Protestant hf grin (but that's another thread LOL).

Rollergirl1 Fri 19-Jun-09 23:20:38

Awww, he has a lovely fathers day card, and a big bag and, a big fathers day sign thing. hmmmn. Night.

pointydog Fri 19-Jun-09 23:21:06

father's day is a made-up copncept. Why do we want other people to do things with our own children? Do something together

Galava Fri 19-Jun-09 23:22:25

Mothers day is to celebrate returning to the mother church in the spring. A christian tradition.

Fathers day on the other hand is commercialism.

Snorbs Fri 19-Jun-09 23:22:52

PointyDog, my children have only irregular contact with their mother (and I know that she wouldn't encourage my DCs to make me a Fathers Day card), and the school knows that.

biffandchip Fri 19-Jun-09 23:23:28

We have done stuff together, it's just that some of the school stuff I've had has been fab and it would be nice for dp to get something of that quality, rather than the tat I am capable of helping them cobble togethersmile

hf128219 Fri 19-Jun-09 23:24:24

FAQ- it's still a christian festival!

pointydog Fri 19-Jun-09 23:25:45

you didnt say thaye did somethine at school, snorbs.

It is such a sensitive issue that I would be surprised if the children wren't given free choice to decide who the card was for (eg gran). If not, then yes, it is insensitive

JudyBlume1019 Fri 19-Jun-09 23:25:50

it's because fathers' day was invented by the card companies or somesuch, but more importantly, this year it's my birthday

Snorbs Fri 19-Jun-09 23:25:50

Also, whether or not Mother's Day has religious roots, that's not how it's generally regarded or celebrated today.

cookielove Fri 19-Jun-09 23:26:08

i think just because mothering sunday is to do with the church ( which i do not believe in) and fathers day is comercial it doesn't make it any less valid, should fathers not be celebrated are they not as important as mothers???

pointydog Fri 19-Jun-09 23:26:19

agree re that point, snorn

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