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to get really annoyed at people saying my ds should be potty training by now??

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PrammyMammy Thu 18-Jun-09 17:51:44

It's making me so sad, i feel like throwing the potty at them.

My ds is 17 mo. He really wouldn't last without a nappy. He has only been walking 3 months and he just seems so young. But he is my pfb so what do i know??

MIL started when he was 6 months, saying if he can sit unaided he can use a potty.

Now my own mum is at it. She says she had us potty trained at 18 months and i am going to make problems for myself.

My dn (sisters daughter) was potty training now, and did it with great success. She could also walk at 9mo, talk at 10mo etc, and that is all i am hearing.

It upsets me because it feels like they are putting ds and myself down. I avoid visiting them just because of the comments now.

pjmama Thu 18-Jun-09 17:54:01

My DD is 2yrs 9mths and still in nappies. DS same age has only been toilet trained since easter. IMO 17mths is far too early to be even thinking about it.

Go ahead and throw the potty at them grin

PuzzleRocks Thu 18-Jun-09 17:55:56

Ignore. They will do it when they are ready. If you push them too soon it will just take too long and be a nightmare for you both. 17 months is still very young. I am only just starting now with DD1 and letting her take the lead. Everyone is out of nappies eventually.

PuzzleRocks Thu 18-Jun-09 17:57:08

DD is 2.2.

Lizzylou Thu 18-Jun-09 17:58:10

Goodness me!
DS1 was potty trained at 2yrs 3mths
DS2 was 3yrs 1mth

It all depends on when they're ready, tell your MIL to take a hike.
It's not a bloody competition!

GrimmaTheNome Thu 18-Jun-09 17:58:21


mums in the old days were over-eager to potty train because they had terry nappies to wash, often without decent washing machine.
18 months is at the early end of the normal spectrum now, I think.

Tell your MIL and mum that.

Having said that, if theres a nice sunny day you can try letting DS play in the garden nappyless with a potty available, he might take to it.

Whatever you do dont stress yourself or him about it!

shootfromthehip Thu 18-Jun-09 17:58:53

My DS is 2.6 and I have had 2 failed attempts at potty training- what is he backwards or am I not trying hard eno9ugh? I think not.

Tell them to bugger off.

In fact, baffle them with made up science, eg 'the American Journal of Baby and Toddler Development suggest that it is detrimental to their psycho-social development to potty train before 2 1/2 yrs'. Tell them you can't believe that they would suggest something so potentially detrimental grin

Works for me!! wink

Cistus Thu 18-Jun-09 17:59:17

what a joke. YANBU.

about 3 for boys usually !

sharedplanet Thu 18-Jun-09 18:00:09

YANBU - (v excited never used this acronym before!) 17months would be on the very young side of the spectrum for what is normal IMO (Cool another acronym) It seems that generally potty training is occurring later and later so perhaps we were all trained younger. FWIW – (strike three) DS 2.5 and was painless and DD currently 18months and not even thinking about it yet – although she is more aware and will fetch new nappies etc when she feels she would like a change.
Ask MIL what scary / strange thoughts her MIL had on child rearing to perhaps give her some perspective.

PrammyMammy Thu 18-Jun-09 18:00:53

thank you,:D.
Just seems such a stress. If he has no nappy on he will just pee over his feet without so much as a blink. lol h would probably use a potty as a hat.

PrammyMammy Thu 18-Jun-09 18:03:02

lol shootfromthehip, great idea.

pranma Thu 18-Jun-09 18:09:06

I thinks its too young to start,especially with a boy.Dgs is 2.8 and dd is wondering if she started too early[2.5]

risingstar Thu 18-Jun-09 18:13:34

far too early-- DD1 was 2.8, DD2 a bit earlier, around 2.6 but she was at full time nursery. dd3 is 19 months and would have no idea. i had 3 failed attempts with DD1 and vowed that i would never try again before 2 and a half. life is just too short.

lynniep Thu 18-Jun-09 18:14:41

What kind of noodles are saying that?!!! DS is 27 months and nowhere near ready for potty training. Sheesh!

ll31 Thu 18-Jun-09 18:15:02

ds was 2.6 - and at that I thought I could have waited!!! For some people its a competition I think!!!! No one here obviously... but in r l !

5inthebed Thu 18-Jun-09 18:15:30

17 months is way too early to even attempt toilet training! YANBU at all.

Blondeshavemorefun Thu 18-Jun-09 18:19:05

17mths is very young - yes a few are pt by then, but the average age is between 2 and 3

as long as out of nappies by school then i wouldnt worry

when the child is ready, you will be able to pt in a week or 2

PrammyMammy Thu 18-Jun-09 18:19:07

Thanks, i think they do see it is a bit of a competition.
Shame because what are they trying to prove? That my sis and myself were potty trained before ds therefore we are better? Or is it that they are better at parenting than me?

FabBakerGirlIsBack Thu 18-Jun-09 18:19:38

My DD asked for knickers at 17 months but that is very early.

DS2 was dry at 3 and a bit and DS2 was dry at 2 1/2 in 3 days. If you time it right it shouldn't take much time but 17 months is still baby time.

sunfleurs Thu 18-Jun-09 18:22:36

My HV always says to me "**(dd) dry at night yet?" as though it goes without saying that she is trained during the day. She is 2.8. I just say "No" stonily.

She will do it when she is ready, just like ds did. One day he asked me what the Winnie the Pooh toilet seat was for I told him, he used and never wore a nappy during the day again, dry at night two weeks later. So there! (to HV not OP).

TheLadyEvenstar Thu 18-Jun-09 18:24:57

Ds1 was PT at 16/17m ds2 however is 20m and nowhere near ready to even attempt it!
smile mind you i don't mind i love his cloth bottom!!!!

LilRedWG Thu 18-Jun-09 18:28:53

DD potty trained very shortly before her third birthday and got the hang of it really quickly. I just used to say, very calmly, "We'll do it when she's ready thanks", and mutter afterwards. Hang in there.

Reallytired Thu 18-Jun-09 18:30:46

Just because a child is in pants does not mean they are potty trained.

My son was potty trained at 3 years and 3 months. He cracked it both day and night in about 8 days. After that he only had a handful of accidents.

InmyheadIminParis Thu 18-Jun-09 18:54:16

17 months! YANBU - at that age they should be putting the potty on their heads and wearing it as a hat!
Let him play with the potty for another six months at least before you give it another thought.
If you do it at the right time - when they want to, not you or anyone else, potty training only takes 2 or 3 days. Do it when they're not ready and you'll be mopping up puddles and putting on 6 pairs of trousers per day for weeks.

difficultdecision Thu 18-Jun-09 19:02:16

my DS is exactly the same age - I've mananaged to shut everyone up by telling them I've planned exactly when i'm going to try the first time - next summer when he will be 2 1/2 and it will be warm enough again - he's too young now and it will be too cold soon so I reckon that buys me a year

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