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to find drippy child a bit annoying

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TheProfiteroleThief Tue 16-Jun-09 18:01:30

Having been speaking to a friend who has a dd I can only decribe as 'drippy.

I know some children are shy, some are introvert and try to accomodate this - eg a playdate on their own rather than a party etc, but this child is so wet, i can't bear her.

I also think the mum sort of 'enables' this behaviour in that she never encourages her to push her comfort zone even a little eg go to a party with mum in attendance and leave if not having fun, she just never goes to parties. tbh, I think she is going to struggle with school.

Certainly no obvious special needs - her speech is good when she wants it to be, she can socialise but only on her own terms.

It seems it irritates even the other children.

So am I a mean old bag? I suspect I may be blush

BitOfFun Tue 16-Jun-09 18:02:31

YANBU, but I am a mean old bag too grin

sarah293 Tue 16-Jun-09 18:02:46

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TheProfiteroleThief Tue 16-Jun-09 18:04:49

I can manage shy kids OK, this one just makes me feel a bit manipulated somehow. I fully accpet mean old bag thing

memoo Tue 16-Jun-09 18:05:37

yes you are a mean old bag and a tad immature, its non of your business how another person parents their child

pjmama Tue 16-Jun-09 18:07:52

A friend of mine's DD just stares at you. I know it's because she's shy, but I do find it very difficult to talk to her as you just don't get any response at all. So I know what you mean about her making you feel uncomfortable. She'll come round in her own time though.

TheProfiteroleThief Tue 16-Jun-09 18:08:28

seriously - I am never supposed to find anyone's child annoying? That seems a bit unrealistic. Don't see the immature though

LyraSilvertongue Tue 16-Jun-09 18:09:30

YANBU to find her annoying. We can't all like everybody.

TheProfiteroleThief Tue 16-Jun-09 18:11:30

I don't give her a sly pinch when her mum isn't looking or anything wink

wolfnipplechips Tue 16-Jun-09 18:13:02

YANBU i know exactly what you mean.

FigmentOfYourImagination Tue 16-Jun-09 18:13:44

god, I am the same as OP. Good job I have robust kids really, eh ?

Being a parent to anxious, clingy, 'wet' child must be a bit of a 'mare socially.

posieparker Tue 16-Jun-09 18:14:47

Yes, drippy children are encouraged by needy parents.

HaventSleptForAYear Tue 16-Jun-09 18:15:34

hmmm, I know what you mean but I also know that some people considered DS1 a bit drippy last year because he cried easily and got v. put out if games didn't go his way.

We like to call him "sensitive".

After a year at school where he didn't speak at all, he is now confident and relaxed and less of a cry-baby.

YANBU to be annoyed, but it might not be due to the parenting - our DS2 is a full-on future rugby player, straight in fighting with bigger kids, feels no pain etc;

LyraSilvertongue Tue 16-Jun-09 18:17:32

The second boy is usually tougher. I know mine is.

chevre Tue 16-Jun-09 18:17:43

how old is the drippy child?

muffle Tue 16-Jun-09 18:19:33

Ooh I know some wet ones, especially girls. Don't want to try anything, don't take an interest in anything, just stare at you gormlessly. And I do know what you mean about the "enabling" though I guess there is good reason for not pushing your reluctant child into things.

plantsitter Tue 16-Jun-09 18:20:10

YANBU, but I happen to know I was exactly like this drippy child and it was horrible going to parties and stuff. Just constant anxiety. So, whilst I appreciate she is probably annoying, give her a break just cos you're a grown up and you can (obviously I am the exuberant life-and-soul type now, pff).

wolfnipplechips Tue 16-Jun-09 18:22:15

What about when they come for playdates then expect you to join in their games, i have playdates so as i get a break from playing games with my children.

chevre Tue 16-Jun-09 18:23:09

agree with plant sitter, i remember the utter agony of being a drippy child. tis not fun, esp. with adults glaring at you.

SammyK Tue 16-Jun-09 18:30:03

What about whiny kids? I know a little girl who only talks in a whiny moany voice at all times and I have lost all patience with her.

"suzy says she's not my friend"
"I don't want the pink or the purple or the yellow scooter, I want the white one" (only toy not available)
and so on hmm

I am probably just completely intolerant and horrid myself but IMO OP, YANBU.

PeppermintPatty Tue 16-Jun-09 18:30:58

I was a shy clingy child. My mum in no way enabled this - in fact she disliked it and used to push me to do things I hated, or tried to 'bring me out of myself' by embarrassing or telling me off in front of others

I don't think this helped very much either.
It just taught me to hate the way I was.

I don't know what the answer is, but just remember this kid can't help being the way she is. You don't have to like her but try and be a bit more tolerant.

squeaver Tue 16-Jun-09 18:34:26

I know a couple of children like this and ime the parents don't help. I do feel sorry for the los but boy is it wearing...

PhaseAte Tue 16-Jun-09 18:35:28

I agree
drip off

sarah293 Tue 16-Jun-09 18:36:11

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Jux Tue 16-Jun-09 18:36:46

DD had a friend in her old school who was so prissy it was unbelievable. You know, a bit like Fotherington-Thomas? With that silly little smile on the face? That way of walking that is almost on tiptoes, trip trip trip? With the hand gently clasped in front of them?

I didn't hate her, and was perfectly nice - she was an OK kid actually. I just thought, perhaps her dad should take her to Diggerland a few times.

I'm a mean old bag sometimes too.

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