I think this is a dilemma that has no answer, but I'll vent anyway.
We live next door to a lovely couple, with 3 dcs, 8, 4 and 9 months. We get on really well with them, they are a very sociable pair, and we often pop in for a coffee etc. The lady is definitely not someone you would want to be on the wrong side of, however, she has a very sharp tongue, and wouldn't be afraid to use it.
The problem is thus. We are expecting dc2, and will be moving dd into the back bedroom soon, that overlooks both gardens. Neighbours children are typically in the garden until about 8.30pm during the week, and around 10pm at the weekend, when they generally have friends round. Their elder dc are extremely noisy, and spend loads of time kicking their football against the fence, and jumping on their trampoline.
My dd is a very light sleeper. Can you see my problem? There's no answer, is there. She's just going to be disturbed and there's nothing I can do. <weep>
we have similar problem but were ground floor flat and kids room is above ours they bang and jump on the floor play ball sing karaoke till silly o clock but not late enough to be able to complain have asked politely if noise can be kept down they are 11 and 13 but it just made them worse weekends its 11.30 till they quieten down
wouldn't mind though my dp was playing music at 4.40 pm and they came down and asked for it to be turned off as dd wasn't well she is 13 my ds was 2 with bad croup they had blaring music at 12 went up asked if they could turn it down as ds couldn't sleep took 20 mins for them to turn it down
i feel your concerns as ds is very light sleeper but sadly not much can be done
sometime sitas more our concerns and anxieties though as now ds is older and we get to go out in garden till later it doesn't worry me about anyone else iyswim but if i was indoors id be panicking that ds was being woken up as i simply don't want to deal with it but nothing i love more than being outside with friends on a nice evening
i must admit ive always made sure there was some element of noise for ds to fall asleep with as if they get used to quiet they will only ever sleep if quiet i used to put music or tv on louder so ds had to learn to fall asleep with some noise going on
when he was baby i had tv on in same room as he got older music on slightly louder etc in other room best skill they can have is to be able to settle themselves down no ,matter what