Myself and dp aren't married, but have a little girl together, and when she was born we discussed surnames. He said he wasn't too attached to his surname (lets say it's "Bloggs"), as his parents divorced when he was young and his mum brought him up on her own. I, on the other hand, quite like my name (let's say it's "Jones"), and always knew I wouldn't change my name if I got married. So when our dd was born she was given my surname - "Baby Jones", no middle name or anything else.
She's now 1.5 years old. Earlier in the year dp's dad sent a card to our dd with the Bloggs surname on it, and it occurred to me then that he didn't know she had my surname. DP didn't correct him.
This morning dp and his brother were on skype. I heard his bro call her the wrong name - Baby Bloggs. It occurred to me that dp's bro hasn't been told otherwise. DP didn't correct him either.
So I said afterwards that it was interesting they all call her by the Bloggs surname, when that's not her name. DP didn't see the issue. Then I said I thought it was a bit misleading for him not to tell them what her surname was, that they should know. Well, he didn't like that at all! Got very upset with me for saying he was being misleading, when it was something he didn't actually even think about. As far as he's concerned her name is her first name only, and he wasn't being misleading, he just hadn't told them. And I was at fault for bringing it up after the fact. Why don't I tell them myself next time they do it?
AIBU??? I really think they should know, especially her granddad, and I think he's the one who should tell them. They're his family. I ended up apologising for saying he was misleading, simply because he got so annoyed, but I shouldn't have apologised, because I think he is being misleading! Aaargh!
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to expect my dp to tell his family what his daughter's full name is?
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weebump · 14/06/2009 21:11
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