Grr. DP just gone out to get fish & chips after an argument. Basically, I feel that every time we have been alone together since DS was born (October) we have spent it either doing our separate things (TV/console/laptop) or he has been trying to get into my pants. My sex drive has never been that great, and it's at rock bottom now - probably not helped by the fact we never do anything together, we have hardly ever been out together as a family either. I'm just feeling a bit fed up! Today we spent 20 minutes in the morning doing sexual stuff, which culminated in a bj - but then when we had a spare 20 minutes between DS going to bed, finishing the housework and some friends coming over, he wanted us to have sex because we haven't for 3 weeks and my cousin's coming to stay tomorrow for a week, which means if we want to do it then we'll have to be discreet/quiet. I didn't feel like having sex because I am tired and hungry and since we spent some time being sexual earlier, I felt it was reasonable to want to spend some time together not being sexual. OK, so we are not having much sex (at all) - and that is more a problem for DP than for me (ie I'm not bothered), but I just feel non-sexual time spent together is important as well and am starting to feel that sex is all that matters to him and he has forgotten that I am a real person!
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CherryChoc · 14/06/2009 19:46
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