I know IABU but I am so tempted to do it!
Yesterday was both my DDs birthday. Their dad lives across the other side of teh country. He had made plans with the girls, ages ago, for a lovely day out, asking them what they would like to do, where to go for lunch & generally made it all exciting for them. They rarely see him, so this was a much hyped birthday visit.
2 weeks ago he phoned to say that he was on new ADs and they were making him feel crap and so wasnt going to come and take the girls out after all. And could i explain this to them! Ok, fair enough, this might be true, i have no experience of taking ADs ..? He promised to put £100 into my bank for the girls birthday, plus £30 he owes me.
This never happened. For the last week, he has avoided all contact with the girls, and me. No phone calls or anything. I know he is ok though, as he has been in contact with his mum!
Yesterday, DDs birthday. Not even a card from him! Now this has disgusted me. Everyone else managed to send them a card, he KNOWS when their birthday is FGS. My eldest DD (9) sat by the letterbox most of the day, waiting for a card from her dad She just couldnt understand why he wouldnt send her one. Both girls were both visably upset. He didnt even give them a phone call either, to say sorry or to say the cards would be late, just NOTHING.
Now, I am livid that he could do this to them! I know he will phone in teh next few days, with a whole list of poor-me excuses. But I am sooo angry, I am tempted to let not let him talk to the girls. I dont want them to hear his crap excuses But I dont want to just let this go either, because then he will think it doesnt matter.
I know that is BU though. So please, how do I handle this???
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to not let ex-h speak to the kids today?
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MaDuggar · 14/06/2009 07:46
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