I just don't GET baby showers. They just seem to be an excuse to expect gifts from people. Am I alone in thinking this? I didn't have one, hardly anyone I know with kids has had one but suddenly in the last few months I or close friends of mine have been invited to several and I just don't get it!
There's another invite come through today. It is someone I've known for years and I totally totally would intend to go and see her after the baby was born and take presents and a meal with me (I always take a meal for friends who've had babies so they don't have to bother about dinner that evening after I've gone). But I really really don't want to go and sit around for the afternoon with other women I don't all know... doing what? feeling her bump?? talking about our labours?? There isn't even a baby too coo over yet. But now that the official invites have gone out, I feel put into a position where I have to officially decline to go. Which I think is the bit I resent. Cos I'll still be doing everything I would anyway, but why do I have to be summonsed to do it?
Am I just jealous because no-one did this for me!?? I really don't think so, and I've thought about it quite a bit. It's being organised by the same person who organised the girl's hen do, and in both cases (said friend is childless and single and idealises both marriage and parenthood to a ridiculous degree) and I think it's partly the "Oooooh, we must all make a fuss for she is doing this wondrous, sacred, special thing" that gets me.... even though I do agree that motherhood is all those things!!!
Argh. Come on then. AIBU to decline politely (and if not, any ideas on how?)
AIBU?
to think baby shower is a shower??!!
Casserole · 12/06/2009 22:52
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