To be worried about the very very very very very rare chance of being up the duff?

[imanidiot]

Ok I have posted in the relationships section.

I was stupid and slept with separated h.. I've stopped beating myself up about that and I can't change it, but I definately DONT want to do it again.

However, I'm freaking out about the possibility of being preggers. We used contraception, carefully and properly, no chances taken, no tears, no rips etc etc.

Why am I freaking out. In my head this situation has already happened and I pregnant and my whole family are upset with me and its all awful and terrible and I feel sick and ARGGGGGHHHH.

Am I being unreasonable to be worrying about this? Please put my mind at rest.

[StealthPolarBear]

You poor thing.
From what you've said it sounds very unlikely to me - sounds to me like your mind has decided that's the worst that can happen and is running away with itself!
When can you test, to put your mind at rest? Is it too late for the MAP?

[imanidiot]

Too late for MAP, about 12 days till my period

I used condoms at birth control all throughout my marriage and no probs - so why am I worrying now! (And often left it stupidly to the last minute, which we DIDNT DO this time)

[MitchyInge]

this just sounds like another way of beating yourself up for it - you're probably not pregnant but what can you do about it if you are? relax!

[IDidntRaiseAThief]

cos you did something you wish now yu hadn't, andd the pregnancy consequence is a very different thing now, cos he's your ex?

[imanidiot]

yep all of the above. I just realise what an idiot I am now for hanging on to someone who doesn't want me, and the consequence could be I could be preggers and he wouldn't be interested in making it work! What an idiot!

Can't change anything

[MitchyInge]

people always say it's the things they didn't do that they regret the most, not the things they did do

all part of the rich tapestry!

[imanidiot]

I suppose this could change me for the better. Give me the backbone I've always needed!

So theoretically, or even what do you guys think...what are the chances? slim to none?

[StealthPolarBear]

slim to none
now stop beating yourself up - you're human

[girlandboy]

99.9999999999999999999999999% no chance.

Stop worrying.

[imanidiot]

thank you x

I do suffer from extreme anxiety so this is another thing for me to worry about!

Time to get busy and take my mind off things....

But then again I suppose the way to look at it was even if I was pregnant, there was a time when I thought I couldn't have children, so look on the bright side?! lol.

[MitchyInge]

yes and even if you were who's to say that it wouldn't all work out wonderfully?

[AliGrylls]

So little chance best not to think about it.

In fact if you are that worried do a pregnancy test then forget it ever happened.

[imanidiot]

mitchy (love the name BTW) that is true. I may meet my knight in shining armour who loves kids and my kids and me and wants to be with me!

aligrylls (no relation to Bear? How do you cope with him off climbing bamboo shoots and eating bark all the time?!) I wish I could but 12 days till my period so no point yet!

Part of a learning curve? Oh heck? Anyone got preggers accidentally and it been happy ending? Family didn't hate them, all worked out?!

[MitchyInge]

my 3rd baby was a 'surprise'

a lovely one, ultimately, not that I didn't get into quite a state at the time! I've yet to settle down with any knight in shining armour though so that might not be any comfort to you

BUT YOU ARE NOT PREGNANT!

[Galava]

Slim to no chance I think.

[imanidiot]

slim to none thats what I LIKE to hear

onwards and upwards....but what if....??????

someone slap me

[paranoidmother]

slaps round face >

You'll be fine, just calm down, take a test or try not to panic for the next 12 days!!

[imanidiot]

ouch!

Thanks! I needed that virtual slap

not panicing not panicking not panicking

only 12 days to go (and I am ALWAYS LATE anyway!)

[imanidiot]

Actually. I am gaining perspective. Panicking subdued.

I'm feeling better now. What can I do.

Move on la di dah di dah and forget I ever did it!

[pinkstarfish]

you are not pregnant