I have spent quite some time lately tidying up my spare room and sorting through all my own possessions, ebaying, donating and passing stuff on when I could. This is all so that I can have a workable spare room for visitors (and DP to have an occasional uninterrupted night) and most importantly space to study without having to clear everything away if I am interrupted. I am in a very small flat and have little storage space and with all baby stuff it seems smaller than ususal
A few days ago a friend then sent me several binbags full of stuff - kids clothes, toys etc as she was having a clearout.
A nice gesture? - except firstly she knows I dont buy and rarely accept second hand stuff, (this is purely personal and I am prepared to be flamed for it but as the youngest of a large family I was always the recipient of hand me downs and never seemed to have anything new - and as an adult I tend to steer clear of anything second hand, silly I know, theres nothing wrong with it but its just a stupid qualm)
Secondly, she knows I have already been complaining about the amount of stuff I have and my limited storage, and have most of the items given already- I really dont need more toys and clothes.
Thirdly the stuff is totally unsorted with lots of unsuitable stuff - clothes too small etc.
Fouthly the way it was sent to me was via a mutual friend and made it impossible to politely refuse anything
So now my 'study' is filled back up with bags and boxes, again to be sorted, and I have spent my study time washing loads of clothes, cleaning toys and put most of it to be given to other friends or charity
I can appreciate the gesture of giving but feel used as a bit of a dumping ground: She has her clearout and feels good because shes given it away, but I now have the choice of throwing out her stuff, thus being wasteful and ungreatful or sorting it out, spending my time and energy on it, and having it occupying my space.
I give stuff away to friends but tend to think about it first - eg make sure items are washed, right size, possibly useful, and always mention that its an offer - if they dont want or need it, then fine.
AIBU to feel a bit pissed off? or am I just an ungreatful cow?
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To not want to be the recipient of this sort of charity?
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pumpkinslush · 09/06/2009 12:52
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