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to want to take the dd's home from school at lunchtime on Friday because my mum is over to visit?

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emkana Mon 08-Jun-09 14:06:42

Would that be wrong do you think?

paranoidmother Mon 08-Jun-09 14:08:47

How often do they get to see her? I would say and I could be wrong that if they only get to see her a few times a year then yes one afternoon isn't going to hurt if you let the teacher know. If they get to see her quite often then I would say no. Is it for a special occasion?

Tamarto Mon 08-Jun-09 14:09:47

How long is she over for?

emkana Mon 08-Jun-09 14:11:31

My mum lives in Germany and is coming over Thursday to Monday. We see her quite often as we go over most school holidays (last went Easter) but she isn't here very often, last came over Xmas 2007.

AMumInScotland Mon 08-Jun-09 14:12:09

It gives them the message that school is less important than this opportunity to see her. So I think it depends how "important" you think this visit is in relation to the importance of regular school attendance.

Personally, if this was a rare chance to see her, I'd take them out. But not if it's quite easy for them to see her at other times.

CMOTdibbler Mon 08-Jun-09 14:13:06

YABU - if she lived a long, long way away and they saw her very rarely it would be justified. As it is, they see her regularly so no reason to miss school

norksinmywaistband Mon 08-Jun-09 14:13:56

TBH, I think they should stay at school, they will see her all of sat and sun and school finishes by about 3 so you will in reality only gain 2-3 hours, by taking them out at lunchtime

LovingTheRain Mon 08-Jun-09 14:13:59

I ght get flamed for saying this, but if i were you,i'd do it!! blush blush Say they've both got a dentist appointment! Hope you all enjoy the time with your mum

LovingTheRain Mon 08-Jun-09 14:14:16


rubyslippers Mon 08-Jun-09 14:15:39

she is here for a while

i think it would be really nice for yoru mum to go with you to pick them up

AMumInScotland Mon 08-Jun-09 14:16:20

So they'll see her Thursday night, after school on Friday, and the whole weekend?

Personally, I wouldn't then.

BreevandercampLGJ Mon 08-Jun-09 14:16:42

In our school "Family come First" within reason.

The last time I took DS out of school on a Friday afternoon to fly to my parents, his teacher said "don't worry about it, Fridays are very laid back". "Just take what ever homework he should have, when you collect him." Generally just reading.

How old are your DD's ??

GetOrfMoiLand Mon 08-Jun-09 14:18:32

I would say take them out. Even though you see your mum quite regularly, that is in your mum's house, it seems from your post that she is not in your house that often. I think it would be nice for your dcs to spend as much time as possible with you all together.

It's only one afternoon. I am sure their education would not suffer too much.

I have done this - my mum only comes to mine once a year at the most (even though me and dd go to her house every school holiday). The school has been fine with it.

Just tell the school your mum is having a very rare visit to this country and you will be collecting them at lunchtime.

youmaynotlikethis Mon 08-Jun-09 14:19:23

yanbu imo i would keep them off allday as sick day :-) slate me for it but tons of people take kids out of school for holidays

suwoo Mon 08-Jun-09 14:22:40

My parents live in France, in the same scenario I would take DD out of school without question.

BreevandercampLGJ Mon 08-Jun-09 14:23:13

Don't keep them off sick, they will hang you.

Tell the truth.

A lie needs two good legs to stand on.

flaminhell Mon 08-Jun-09 14:34:47

YANBU, kids will love it, being home in the afternoon, they will remember it as fun times when granny came to stay, and school wont mind, not for a one off.

Have fun. live a little, life is for fun and family not just the hard slog of education and working, teach them both and you can't go wrong.

Northernlurker Mon 08-Jun-09 14:53:04

I think that's wrong. You would only gain 2 hours but you're showing them that's it's ok to ditch school type things for 'fun' stuff.

That's not a great precedent to be setting imo.

itsbeingsocheerful Mon 08-Jun-09 15:05:22

I don't think UABU, but I know my DS loves it when his gran comes to meet him from school on the first day she arrives for a visit. He likes showing her off to his friends, and them to her!

I reckon he'd be a bit put out if I suggested he stay home to wait for her to arrive.

Thunderduck Mon 08-Jun-09 15:07:33

YANBU. It won't cause any harm.

katiestar Mon 08-Jun-09 16:20:59

I think she would probably enjoy meeting them from school TBH

cat64 Mon 08-Jun-09 16:37:14

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emkana Mon 08-Jun-09 21:57:08

Okay have now decided against it, but only because I realized that my mum will probably be having her midday nap then! grin

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