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to be really annoyed with DH....

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elliepac Sun 07-Jun-09 13:24:49

who has buggered off to bed (at midday when he only got up at 10) because he was in strop for no apparent reason. I've been up with the kids since 5.30am, have had to take washing round to friend's houses because bloody machine broke yesterday, clean/tidy up all while looking after DS 5 and DD 1. He got up, drank some coffee and then played on his computer..nothing else angry. DS was bugging him to play with him and DD was having a tantrum and he just got up, stomped upstairs and went to bed, without saying a word to me? Add into this that he knew I had work to do this afternoon. angry angry

Don't know what to do when he gets up. If I say anything it will just result in an argument which i can do without tbh.

FFS Men!

Niftyblue Sun 07-Jun-09 13:26:20

Get him out of bed and tell him to grow up angry
Or better still send the kids in to him

PfftTheMagicDragon Sun 07-Jun-09 13:30:02

It's not men! Not all men act like this and attributing such behaviour to their gender simply enables them to continue in such a manner. It's just him, he is behaving like a twat.

Don't stand for it!

helsbels4 Sun 07-Jun-09 13:30:43

I'd send the kids in to him and tell him that you're off out and don't know what time you'll be back!

He's being totally selfish. Don't know what work you have to do but can you go and do it somewhere else?

TrillianAstra Sun 07-Jun-09 13:31:46

What Pfft said! It's not men. It's that particular man. Some women are just as bad.

elliepac Sun 07-Jun-09 13:32:39

good point magic dragon, i officially change my post to:-


elliepac Sun 07-Jun-09 13:34:20

In fact, I may take the D out of the question because he doesn't feel very darling/dear (never know which one it is) so I officially change my post again to :-


TrillianAstra Sun 07-Jun-09 13:34:43

Does he do this often? Is this usual behaviour?

Ronaldinhio Sun 07-Jun-09 13:35:44

yabu to allow this behaviour to go on in any way

they are your and his children and it is your and his home...this is an equal responsibility

why did you get up with the kids at 5.30 and allow him to lie in bed?

get him up, explain that you need to share responsibility equally and don't waiver from that standpoint for the rest of your days (except if it tips marginally in your favour)

If he doesn't like it continue to explain it calmly and clearly everyday until he gets the message.

Stropping around and causing arguments to get our of responsibilty is a form of bullying and should be stamped out before it has a chance to root

SlartyBartFast Sun 07-Jun-09 13:37:59

have you never sloped back to bed>?

SlartyBartFast Sun 07-Jun-09 13:38:23

you did get up pretty early shock
i think you all need to start the day again wink

elliepac Sun 07-Jun-09 13:39:15

Before I villify him publicly, he can be a lovely man and is a fantastic father.........however, he can be a complete twat at times. We are v happy 90% of the time but sometimes he is the laziest stroppiest sod i have ever known. And yes it is quite common that if he is stroppy he will sod off to bed leaving me to do anything. (apologies for overuse of words stroppy and sod) He says he does it because he is stressed. Not entirely sure he knows the meaning of the word.

elliepac Sun 07-Jun-09 13:41:33

slartybartfast, you may be right. possibly overreacting because of early get up...not through choice I hasten to add, DD thinks this sleep malarkey is overrated.

SlartyBartFast Sun 07-Jun-09 13:44:51

ah well,
you have a rant on here and call him a twat.
i bet you feel better now for the support smile

elliepac Sun 07-Jun-09 13:49:27

twat twat twat, selfish twat.

You are right. I do feel better.

As a newbie, this mumsnet lark is fab, I feel like i've now had the argument i wanted to have and therefore may now be able to talk about it when he graces me with his presence rather than rant like a raving mad woman. Much more sensible course of action.

elliepac Sun 07-Jun-09 13:50:43

And Ronaldinhio, that's some great advice. Thank you very much. smile

TrillianAstra Sun 07-Jun-09 14:03:47

Yep, MN is fab. You can do the grrrrr here and then be reasonable when he surfaces (but still tell him off, only in a calm measured manner so he can't dismiss you as just being tired and grumpy)

elliepac Sun 07-Jun-09 14:11:13

I shall indeed tell him off, in much the same manner as i do my small children, calmly and slowly to make sure he understands...that he has been a twat wink

elliepac Sun 07-Jun-09 14:12:25

Oh and apologies for the excessive use of the word twat...don't like to swear too much but sometimes it is the only word that works grin

TrillianAstra Sun 07-Jun-09 14:14:49

No worries ellie - we are on Mumsnet here, there is lots of swearing with words much worse than twat. You may need to cover your ears eyes occassionally

NeedaNewName Sun 07-Jun-09 14:17:10

Tis a great place to rant let off steam and have everyone tell you you're right! Mostly allows you time to cool down and get it out your system - just make sure it doesn't make you any angrier!!!!

elliepac Sun 07-Jun-09 14:18:19

I shall have my earplugsblindfolds to the ready wink (as she wonders what the worst possible word she could hear would be?)

TrillianAstra Sun 07-Jun-09 14:22:44

Uh-oh, you really shouldn't have asked that grin

Maybe we'll let you off as you are new

elliepac Sun 07-Jun-09 14:33:01

He he. Thanks for appreciating my newbie status. I am now going to peruse other threads to find words that are worse than anything i could imagine grin

Boys2mam Sun 07-Jun-09 16:39:00

Is he up yet then?

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